SO at baby shower?

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Should your SO be at your baby shower if he can be?

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SO at baby shower?

Postby Mommy_oz » Sun Apr 05, 2009 7:06 pm

I was wondering if it was common or uncommon for your SO to come to the baby shower with you if he could make it? Reason I ask is because my MIL TOLD me that my DH would be spending time with his father during my baby shower but I feel that its a partner thing and that he needs to be with me for it, being this is OUR baby. And that he is more than welcome to spend another full day with his dad not just that day because I feel that the shower is for both of us? Thoughts??


ETA- My MIL and I really don't get along and she is doing this shower for her friends and people I don't even know not one of MY friends will be there so if it is just me I would feel more uncomfortable than I wish and would almost rather skip it because of me not knowing anyone if he weren't there with me
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Postby MomTo2Boys » Sun Apr 05, 2009 7:08 pm

i personally think unless it's a Couple's Shower, then it's a girl thing. But everyone is different. It's your shower, so you can have him there if you want
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Postby Chrisandkarene » Sun Apr 05, 2009 8:34 pm

Since your MIL is throwing it I would demand that DH be there.. IF it was a bunch of your girlfriends only I would just have him show up to say thanks and load the gifts lol ..
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Postby Lizc0002 » Mon Apr 06, 2009 4:49 am

My DH came to mine, and most of the ones I have been to have had the Dads there.

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Postby finallyhappened » Mon Apr 06, 2009 7:45 am

I am having a baby shower here at our house outside, my DH will most likely stay inside until it's time to *help* clean up.
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Postby sarlero » Mon Apr 06, 2009 8:16 am

I've never been to a shower where the Dad was there if it wasn't a couples shower. However, I don't think there is anything wrong with Dad going. My husband will be going to my work shower, but is not going to my home shower b/c it is all female. Although he will be at the house b/c he is on dog duty during the shower at my home.
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Postby mrspattyann » Mon Apr 06, 2009 9:01 am

I say if you want him there and you don't know anyone, then he should be there no matter what she says. It's your day. Even if she is throwing it, she has no right to impose a rule on you that you feel uncomfortable and would rather not go to your own shower!
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Postby Lindsey » Mon Apr 06, 2009 9:05 am

I would just go by yourself.

I made my DH go to one of my baby showers and he just looked and acted super uncomfortable the whole time. I think its definitely more for women.
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Postby Chrisandkarene » Mon Apr 06, 2009 9:17 am

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How about asking a female friend to go with you so you have someone there that you know and feel comfy with??
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Postby victoria_1024 » Mon Apr 06, 2009 9:31 am

I had 3 showers, one with coworkers, one with friends, and one with family. The shower with family DH actually went with... he didn't stay during the games and stuff, but he stayed during the presents and food. It felt appropriate because people wanted to talk to him about the baby too and it was fun for him to participate in the present opening. It would have been weird to have him at my other showers though.
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Postby ivycrystals » Mon Apr 06, 2009 10:12 am

My DH didn't go to my first shower with family and he's not coming to the one with my friends at the end of the month either. I can understand MIL not wanting him there because it's traditionally a girl thing, but if it would make you more comfortable to have him there then I don't think it's a big deal. Also, I think asking a friend to go with you is a good idea too!
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Postby Mommy_oz » Mon Apr 06, 2009 11:16 am

Well my sister will be going with me, I don't want to make my DH uncomfy being it is more of a girlie thing but I'm going to be uncomfortable as is and I almost feel like it would help for him to be there even if its just for food and presents I guess I could ask him just to stay for food and presents and then he could leave if he wanted but I have never been to a baby shower so I don't even know how it goes??
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Postby countrymomma » Mon Apr 06, 2009 11:44 am

I think your sister was a good idea. If your DH had really wanted to go, then I say he should be able to, but otherwise its better for him to not go.
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Postby k05003272 » Mon Apr 06, 2009 12:07 pm

i say have your DH there if you feel more comfortable! thats what i did! our baby shower was co-ed. everyone was invited, family, friends, couples, kids, you name it. we had a big cookout at our house and everyone got along great. i felt so much better having DH there cause he helped direct all the foot traffic.
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Postby imdesired » Mon Apr 06, 2009 2:04 pm

I think it's great having your sister there -- and you never know, maybe you guys can talk, or bond or something?
Might even be BETTER if DH isn't there!
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