DH is annoying me

Fourth you ask? Your body is still full of pregnancy hormones as you adjust to life sleep-deprived with your new baby outside your womb.

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DH is annoying me

Postby jadie_f » Fri Dec 18, 2009 4:39 pm

He is all about having sex, I am not at all. I had my IUD placed today, but I have no desire. First of all, I am still sore from 4th degree tears and only just stopped bleeding a few days ago, although now I am bleeding again from the IUD insertion. I was trying to talk to him this morning while getting ready to pump, he was so mesmerized by the sight of my engorged boobs he wasnt even listening. Not to mention I gained almost 70 pounds and then lost 50 of it PP so I am a saggy, stretch marky, fat gross person right now. I never have time to shower, I leak urine alot, have little bladder control, I sweat 24/7 and am covered in leaky breastmilk and spit up, and sleep deprived, not at all feeling sexy. I keep telling him I need some time but he thinks its funny to make sexual jokes, I am getting really annoyed because that really isnt like him. And I'm sorry but I dont feel bad for him at all, he doesnt need me for sex right now, I have been through a year of physical hell (worth it, but still) and I think he can back the f*** off for a few more months. :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
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Postby mom2abandkb » Fri Dec 18, 2009 9:26 pm

hugs Julie! I completely understand.

I haven't been feeling sexy whatsoever, just darn tired all the time and I don't even feel close to him after all we've been through.

sit him down calmly and just say you need some time to adjust and feel better about yourself. You're not ready yet period!

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Postby jellybean » Sat Dec 19, 2009 12:15 pm

Hugs. It has been 3 months for me and I STILL don't feel completely myself. I am sure it will get better eventually.
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Postby illbeyourpride » Sun Dec 20, 2009 2:53 am

I don't blame you. A day before my induction DH wanted to get some action in, and I explained that my body had been so far removed from sexy that I needed to learn that process again. He was actually pretty understanding and told me to just let him know when I'm ready.
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Postby peachy_sweet » Sun Dec 20, 2009 8:18 pm

i understand your pain.... i actually gave in last week and it was horrible. i made myself enjoy it. i was scared about getting pregnant again, b/c i will not be doing any bc oly condoms and cycle charting. i am so glad we used a condom b/c i have fertile mucus today....wow!!!! he tried again last night and iwas like i am tired leave me alone. i swear it's like they dont' understand we don't have the desire. i am dry as a dessert, my stomach moves around on the inside and all dark. since i had a csection i have weird sensations near my incision, and my boobs are not hte same. and to top it off i am alway slistening for any distress in my baby's breathing. who wants SEX...not me right now!

good luck to us, and pray for our annoying hubbies.
the prayers is that we don't do bodily harm...lol
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Postby jadie_f » Mon Dec 21, 2009 7:40 am

:lol: tangie and ITA about the breathing thing
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Postby peachy_sweet » Thu Dec 24, 2009 9:07 pm

we did it and dh lied and told me the condom broke...i almost chewed his head off. that was not a funny joke to me. he was rolling about it. i still dont' think its' funny. that's why his ass is back on restriction. and my child wanted to sleep throught the whole thing. i was pryain ghe would wake up....lol
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Postby space07 » Wed Jan 06, 2010 12:49 pm

*Lurking*

I think everyone feels that way for a while, but dont worry you will probably want to DTD again!! It took a few months before it was enjoyable for me but now it is fine again!
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Postby brenjay » Wed Jan 06, 2010 1:29 pm

space07 wrote:*Lurking*

I think everyone feels that way for a while, but dont worry you will probably want to DTD again!! It took a few months before it was enjoyable for me but now it is fine again!


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Also - I just want to point out to all of you - I know you all feel like you're not attractive, and not sexy. But!!! Your DH's want you! They do - they still find you sexy and physically attractive. They want to have sex with you, they find you desirable, you are still the woman they want to be with.

Just remember that when the time comes. :)
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