Anyones DH acting distant since LO was born?

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Anyones DH acting distant since LO was born?

Postby babyhelstrup » Tue Feb 16, 2010 9:55 am

I miss the kisses and hugs. It as been almost 3 wks since LO was born and I think I have gotten one real kiss and a hug. I have also only gotten one I love you and it was in a text. Just this AM I got a kiss good bye but it was so quick. Like a peck. Or I get kisses on my head. I have not said anything yet only because I was wondering if this is kinda normal for the husband to act a little strange in the begining.
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Postby dueinapril » Tue Feb 16, 2010 10:16 am

Give it time babe,hes probably trying to give you some space to get over having the baby,women forget that its hard for the man especially if hes not 100 percent sure how your feeling,give it a few more days then try talking to him.
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Postby illbeyourpride » Tue Feb 16, 2010 10:53 pm

My DH was the same, and then after a month or so he told me that it was because he started resenting me for the bond that I shared with DS, and that I seemed so at ease with everything that was going on. Parenting doesn't seem to come as easy for him, and that was hard on him.

Men seem to think of having a baby and think of having an older baby that knows them and plays with them.

Give it time, and don't be afraid to talk to him about your concerns.
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Postby raileysmom » Wed Feb 17, 2010 3:33 pm

He may also be a little jealous of the time and attention you are giving the baby. It took my DH for a loop after DD was born. He was so used to getting ALL my attention and then all of a sudden hardly any. Give him time to adjust too. It will all be better. I would try talking to him about it and tell him how you are feeling. And maybe he will be to tell you what is wrong with him. GL
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