when does LO get spoiled

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when does LO get spoiled

Postby babyhelstrup » Tue Feb 23, 2010 6:41 pm

I've read that LO cant be spoiled by holding and other things while they are very small. So when does spoiling set in? Right now she goes to sleep either in her swing or in the bassinette. But once she wakes up for a feeding she falls asleep on me and I keep her there as she will sleep longer. She is 3 wks now (almost 4). When will she "know" what is going on and start to be spoiled from sleeping on my chest or DH's. Should I start put her back in her bass to start the routine..
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Postby booboo » Tue Feb 23, 2010 7:07 pm

I dont think you should think of it as 'spoiled' but rather as creating habits. Because bad habits can begin early (but can usually be modified when needed.... obviously this is harder the longer the habit has been established)

My mom advice is to start getting her used to sleeping in the bassinet as soon as possible. Its nice to snuggle your baby, and I encourage you to do that, but try to get her to fall asleep in the bassinet. Put her down drowsy and let her fuss (not scream) for a few minutes before you intervene. Chances are, she will settle down and put herself to sleep. Try to do most of your cuddling while she is awake :)

That is the technique I used with my youngest two (after learning from my errors with the first), and they have been great sleepers from the beginning, I never had to do any serious sleep training with them.
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Postby meg1492 » Tue Feb 23, 2010 7:59 pm

She's 3 weeks old. Cuddle, snuggle and hold her close as much as you want to! :D

We split things with DS. Sometimes on one of us, sometimes on the bed, sometimes in the family cradle. He sleeps when he sleeps and doesn't when he doesn't. Remember, your LO was INSIDE of you for 40 weeks. 40 weeks vs 3 on the outside is a pretty big adjustment.
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Postby Nikkijames » Tue Feb 23, 2010 8:22 pm

in answer to your question 9 months to a year.....that's when their brains are mature enough to start to test ya.....
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Postby haleyf » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:03 pm

lol my husband asked the pedi this and he said spoiling a baby under 6 months is impossible and even after that they are only little for so long... :D
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Postby Bee-Jeweled » Wed Feb 24, 2010 7:19 am

definitely NOT something you need to worry about yet mama - hold that baby as much as you can - she needs you right now more than you know! we started transitioning our DD to her crib for naps/nighttime around 3 months but would have probably waited longer if it wasn't for the fact that i had to go back to work FT.

i don't know if you can ever truly spoil a baby by holding them - you can try to get them into a routine of sleeping in certain places but i still help my DD get to sleep when she needs me and have a feeling i always will.

if you have time i highly recommend reading the book "The Happiest Baby on the Block". it provides a ton of insight into the 4th trimester - the first 3 months of your LO's life. you're doing a great job mama - trust your instincts!
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Postby Nikkijames » Wed Feb 24, 2010 9:49 am

I loved "Happiest Baby on the Block"!!! I second that recommendation :D
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Postby brenjay » Wed Feb 24, 2010 10:38 am

I can say from experience - my boy's temper is *just* starting to set in now, right at 9 months. I can see the wheels turning just around the corner.

You absolutely, positively cannot spoil a baby under 6 months old. Definitely touch and hold and love on that little one as much as you can! You are forming your attachment to your baby right now, and your baby's attachment to you. Teach your LO that you will hold them and love them whenever they ask, and that you will always be there for them.

They are only little once! Already, my boy tries to squirm away when I snuggle him. This time is so, SO short, mama. Please don't deny yourself, of your baby, even one second of cuddling and kisses.
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Postby babyhelstrup » Wed Feb 24, 2010 10:39 am

I have the DVD of the Happiest Baby. I really need to watch it. sounds like I will have a lot of my questions answered.
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Postby babyhelstrup » Wed Feb 24, 2010 11:04 am

Thank you all for your thoughts. I do let LO sleep on her own. But I would say every night so far she ends up in my arms sleeping after her first middle of the night wake up. It is just easier and I get to sleep longer. Well and I love the snuggle (but not the crazy sweating)
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Postby MotoX Mom » Sat Feb 27, 2010 5:42 pm

babyhelstrup wrote:I have the DVD of the Happiest Baby. I really need to watch it. sounds like I will have a lot of my questions answered.


ABSOLUTELY!! :D I ditto ditto ditto that book. It is officially on my "baby shower gifts to give" list. SO much insight. I didnt start it til 2m and I regret it. I could have done more in the beginning had I known what DD was feeling/thinking.
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Postby Bee-Jeweled » Sun Feb 28, 2010 1:26 pm

Motoxchic wrote:
babyhelstrup wrote:I have the DVD of the Happiest Baby. I really need to watch it. sounds like I will have a lot of my questions answered.


ABSOLUTELY!! :D I ditto ditto ditto that book. It is officially on my "baby shower gifts to give" list. SO much insight. I didnt start it til 2m and I regret it. I could have done more in the beginning had I known what DD was feeling/thinking.


same here! at least we know for next time and can advise other new mamas to read it too!
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Postby Autumn2000 » Sun Feb 28, 2010 7:41 pm

Motoxchic wrote:
babyhelstrup wrote:I have the DVD of the Happiest Baby. I really need to watch it. sounds like I will have a lot of my questions answered.


ABSOLUTELY!! :D I ditto ditto ditto that book. It is officially on my "baby shower gifts to give" list. SO much insight. I didnt start it til 2m and I regret it. I could have done more in the beginning had I known what DD was feeling/thinking.


We gave the DVD to my brother and SIL before their baby was born and told them how great it was. They call us when their baby is THREE months old to say they just watched the DVD and that they can't believe how much it would have helped had they watched it earlier. I hinted that they should watch it sooner, but I wasn't going to interfere and tell them how to parent.
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Postby MotoX Mom » Sun Feb 28, 2010 10:33 pm

Autumn2000 wrote:
Motoxchic wrote:
babyhelstrup wrote:I have the DVD of the Happiest Baby. I really need to watch it. sounds like I will have a lot of my questions answered.


ABSOLUTELY!! :D I ditto ditto ditto that book. It is officially on my "baby shower gifts to give" list. SO much insight. I didnt start it til 2m and I regret it. I could have done more in the beginning had I known what DD was feeling/thinking.


We gave the DVD to my brother and SIL before their baby was born and told them how great it was. They call us when their baby is THREE months old to say they just watched the DVD and that they can't believe how much it would have helped had they watched it earlier. I hinted that they should watch it sooner, but I wasn't going to interfere and tell them how to parent.


Yeah, its hard, because you KNOW they will benefit, but everyone has their own priorities. :( I get sad thinking I didnt do everything I could have to calm DD when she was SO colicky those first couple months. :(
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Postby illbeyourpride » Mon Mar 01, 2010 3:48 am

I don't think you can ever spoil a child with love and cuddles. They're never too old for it, and you can never give too much...in fact, it seems like you can never give enough.

As far as habits, those can start right away, and sleep habits are definitely good ones to watch, since sleep is important for the whole family. Other posters have had great advice on sleep, which I've done and would definitely recommend (put the baby down when drowsy is a good one). However, if my baby cries, if he wants me...I'm there.
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