Ferberizing

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Ferberizing

Postby kuetoo73 » Tue Mar 16, 2010 6:36 am

Ladies, have any of you tried the Ferber method of sleep training? If so, were your babies finished with nighttime feedings at the point when you started training? Our DS is down to one nighttime feeding per night, and I'm not sure how to handle that since Ferber says not to feed him while sleep training. When he inevitably cries, how will we know if he's hungry or just learning to soothe himself??
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Re: Ferberizing

Postby blue-eden » Tue Mar 16, 2010 6:42 am

kuetoo73 wrote:Ladies, have any of you tried the Ferber method of sleep training? If so, were your babies finished with nighttime feedings at the point when you started training? Our DS is down to one nighttime feeding per night, and I'm not sure how to handle that since Ferber says not to feed him while sleep training. When he inevitably cries, how will we know if he's hungry or just learning to soothe himself??


How old is your LO? Why do you feel he needs training, is he waking up every other hour? Many babies still need to eat once a night until they are up to even a year old. If he's just waking up that one time to eat, that sounds like a great schedule to me! I'm envious!

Definitely wait until you are *sure* your child is not waking up in hunger. Which didn't happen with either of my babies until they were past 6 months of age. You'll never know otherwise if he's crying because he's hungry, needs comfort, or has a pain.
Babies don't normally cry to soothe themselves. They cry because they want something. Soothing themselves means they can roll over and go back to sleep. IMO crying isn't soothing, for child or adult.
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Postby KatieJo3 » Tue Mar 16, 2010 11:10 am

Tell us more about your LO. How old is he? How many naps and how long are they? What time does he go to sleep and wake up? How long does he generally sleep at night?

There might be other alternatives that we can suggest instead of Ferber if we know more :wink:
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Postby kuetoo73 » Tue Mar 16, 2010 11:39 am

LO is five months old. At our last doc visit, ped suggested we start this method of sleep training. She said its time for him to learn to soothe himself.

DS currently naps for about 45 min in the morning, 2 hours in the afternoon, and another hour in the early evening. Typically ready for bed around 8:30pm - we feed him downstairs, then rock him to sleep. Wakes around 12:30am - we've weaned him down to 2 oz, then again rock him to sleep again. Wakes again around 6:30am for the day.

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Postby blue-eden » Tue Mar 16, 2010 12:28 pm

kuetoo73 wrote:LO is five months old. At our last doc visit, ped suggested we start this method of sleep training. She said its time for him to learn to soothe himself.

DS currently naps for about 45 min in the morning, 2 hours in the afternoon, and another hour in the early evening. Typically ready for bed around 8:30pm - we feed him downstairs, then rock him to sleep. Wakes around 12:30am - we've weaned him down to 2 oz, then again rock him to sleep again. Wakes again around 6:30am for the day.

A FTM, I'm open to any and all advice!


Wow, at five months old, that sounds AWESOME! I have no idea why your pedi would recommend you change anything! Waking up only once is a DREAM at that age, seriously.

What you can try, if you really want to push for sleeping all night without a single wake up (which I have to admit, doesn't sound necessary and at this age, he honestly still does probably need to eat overnight) is eliminate that early evening nap and put him down to bed for the night earlier, between 7 and 8. It sounds counter productive, but it actually works.

I really recommend reading some books about infant sleep, to see what a "normal" (and I say that very loosely, because normal is different for each baby) pattern of sleep and eating looks like at the different stages.
My favourite sleep books, that I found the most informative and helpful (and I've read a TON LOL) are:
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Weissblush
The No Cry Sleep Solution, by Elizabeth Pantley

At this age, if you try to take away his night feeding, he's going to cry. And probably because he's hungry. Please think about that, hard.
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Postby kuetoo73 » Tue Mar 16, 2010 6:32 pm

Well, if Ferberizing was my first mommy test, I failed miserably. I lasted all of 14 minutes. Any no-cry advice is very welcome! :)
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Postby jmlgirl » Wed Mar 17, 2010 11:08 am

I agree... sounds like you already have a good system... not sure why your pedi would recommend this at 5 months either since LO is only waking once... my only advise would try rocking to just a sleeping stage and not to a complete sleep stage...

My DD woke once a night until 1 year to feed. She still wakes on occassion but doesn't need to eat during the night anymore. I think it's more just to check if I'm close by...
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Postby babyhelstrup » Wed Mar 17, 2010 3:03 pm

My LO is only 7 wks so I dont really have experience on this. BUT to me sounds like what you have is perfect. I would just stick with it. Eventually he will grow out of the midnight feeding. 5 months is still pretty little. Just think if you went to bed at 830 you might wake up at some point hungry. Sleeping from 830- 630 is a long time with out a snack, esp if you have a small tummy. Also IMO having only 1 feeding and at midnight is good. Better than a 3 am feeding when you are in a real deep sleep..
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Postby maggiemay » Sun Mar 21, 2010 6:25 pm

I have a 3 yo that still wakes up and asks for milk once a night so I say you have it pretty good!

I would suggest the book The No Cry Sleep Solution I can't remeber who the author is but it's a good "middle of the road" sleep book. I got mine on Amazon.
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