Self soothing...

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Self soothing...

Postby babyhelstrup » Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:35 pm

I read that many LO's are able to self sooth themselves to sleep.. Can this be taught to them? As of now I rock my LO to sleep or if that is not working (during day naps) I put her in the swing and she goes to sleep (
and sleeps for a long time!) May articles say to lay them down while they are tired and let the fall asleep. I'v tried this and LO just wakes up w/ big eyes and then starts to cry. And cry hard.. I am not a fan of "letting them cry it out" but it would be nice for LO to fall asleep on her own with out me rocking or in her swing. Is there a way I can "teach" her to fall asleep? Baths really take a lot out of her and she gets really sleepy but cant bath her every time...
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Postby randomacts » Tue Apr 06, 2010 7:23 am

Babies don't really self soothe until they are about 6 months old. Rocking to sleep is a very legitimate way of getting the baby to sleep, keep doing what you are doing! She is still very young.
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Postby babyhelstrup » Tue Apr 06, 2010 9:52 am

thanks.
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Postby Tracylee » Tue Apr 06, 2010 10:38 am

my son is just about 5 months old and he doesnt really self sooth at all. I can tell you that one night last month when he was fussing in bed I noticed his eyes werent really open and all I did was help him find his thumb,,,,,, he started sucking on it and booooommmm back asleep he went. He never sucks his thumb during the day but when he goes in his crib,, it always makes its way to his mouth and he seems to be happy. I guess that's a way of self soothing.
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Postby dancingnikk » Tue Apr 06, 2010 2:48 pm

I wanted Anna Grace to sleep in the bassinet beside our bed when we came home from the hospital but she refused!!! So against my better judgment I put her in her crib and she slept beautifully!!! I remembered with my son that I would rock him to sleep but then I realized that when I would lay him down if I wasn't really really careful he would wake up and that was exhausting!!! Sooooooooo since day one I have put Anna Grace in her crib half asleep and it is working great! The first week it would take at least an hour of me going back in her room and repositioning her or putting the passy back in her mouth. I never let her cry though. . . .that breaks my heart especially this young. Now she will be a month tomorrow and sometimes I don't have to go back in her room at all!!! But if I do it's just a couple of times. It is definitely getting easier. I also do this for naps . . .or well at this age just whenever she looks like she is going to fall asleep. (which is a lot this young) Maybe I'm crazy but I thing she is getting the hang of it. . .or at least learning to love her crib. And I love that!!!

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Postby Ahavati » Wed Apr 07, 2010 12:44 pm

My toddler didn't self soothe until about 9-10 months. She really didn't go to sleep without being rocked until maybe 14m. I can now lay her in her crib and she'll go to sleep. But at 2m they can't do that. Usually my baby (4w)fall asleep when she's done nursing and I can move her to where I want her to sleep. We also co-sleep so when she's done nursing, she just goes right to sleep, no soothing needed the majority of the time. They're used to being snuggled for 9 months in your belly, that's what they still want! :) This time goes fast, enjoy snuggling your baby!
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Postby Miles » Wed Apr 07, 2010 1:33 pm

My second we had to rock until she was a yr old. She stopped being rocked then and also stopped using her paci. She started to suck her thumb once we took the paci away. My youngest is almost 2 weeks old and does suck on her hands, but it doesnt help a whole lot. We actually havent rocked her as I dont want to do what we did with DD#2. She is able to fall asleep on her own if she is half way awake too which DD#2 couldnt do.
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Postby Wendella » Wed Apr 07, 2010 5:24 pm

Natalie went through a stage just like you're talking about right around the age that your LO is. She has gotten a lot better now and she can fall asleep pretty well on her own as long as I put her down during the window of opportunity when she's drowsy but not overtired.
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Postby Bee-Jeweled » Thu Apr 08, 2010 6:42 am

probably not for a bit still mama - but hang in there! time really does fly and your LO will be self-soothing in no time. i think our DD started doing this for naps around 5-6 months. we still get her to sleep for bedtime at night though and she's 8 months old now.
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Postby funshine » Mon Apr 12, 2010 2:20 pm

ds didnt until he was 12 months old, or maybe thats because i didnt let him :oops:
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Postby babyhelstrup » Mon Apr 12, 2010 2:27 pm

Thats good to know. She starts daycare in 3 weeks, so it will be interesting to see what happens with her sleeping. they have porta cribs so I may have a very cranky baby for a couple weeks til she gets used to it and actually stays asleep when she is laid down.... Good thing she will only be going 3 days til mid Aug.
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Postby Fawkes » Thu Apr 22, 2010 7:43 am

My DD has been self soothing since birth I think.. she sucks on her fingers. She's 15 weeks now. We don't really rock her to sleep to often because I don't want her dependent on this (she will still take naps on Mommy or daddy sometimes though). She also naps in her swing, we give her favorite blanket (yes at 15 weeks she has a preference) and she watches the animals on the mobile on the swing, listens to the music, and then falls asleep.

Though at bedtime, she may still wake up sometimes and cry, with her eyes closed. We tried the pacifier, but she just spits it out and smiles at me (I think she thinks its a game, though I'm happy she won't take it lol). I always put her down when she's drowsy, I can tell by her cry and her eyes.

If she won't go to sleep right away, I pat her tummy and turn on her mobile (she LOVES watching it, I have one that has the projection, music, and animals that move around). After doing that for a few minutes I walk away. If she cries again (that soft whiney cry, its not a real I need something cry) I go back in there (not right away, but I don't let her cry for too long) and pat her tummy so she knows I'm still here, then I walk away again and repeat until she's asleep. I don't ever pick her back up because that tends to wake her up more (though I do if she's screaming her little head off)

I've noticed that when she's tired but doesn't want to sleep she'll kick her covers off and whine cry lol. I go in there put them back on and she stops crying and then does it again lol my little stinker! Now that she's older she flips over to her tummy (almost as soon as I put her down) and she might cry once in a while if she wants back on her back (she hasn't gained the control to flip back over yet but she can lift her head like a champ).
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Postby littlebug » Thu Apr 22, 2010 9:37 am

I agree your baby is still so little.

I started a month ago leaving my DD to "self soothe" and she didn't cry at all, just chatted to herself for 5-10 minutes.

But then I really missed the nursing and rocking her to sleep. During the day she just wants to crawl off and explore and play, so I never have time to just sit and cuddle her and watch her doze off. They are only little once!!
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Postby Ashley » Fri May 07, 2010 11:24 am

My son started self soothing about 2wks ago he is 10wks old. I weaned him to his crib at 5wks and he's been sleeping there ever since. If he is really really fussy I will rock him, but he sucks his fingers (I think he's been doing that since he was in the womb) and now I just lay him in the crib when its around his sleepy time and he fidgets around for about 10 mins while sucking his fingers to death and/or talking to himself lol then he's sound asleep. He actually is more cranky if you interrupt his finger sucking lol. This really helps me because I am a single parent and I have a lot of stuff to get done in the evenings in preparation for the next day and is also helpful for the babysitter. He started a new babysitter on weds and she thinks he's amazing because she doesn't have to do much for him. I wanted it this way because I knew he'd have to go somewhere and I didn't want someone mistreating him because he cried too much or always wanted to be held/rocked.

Hope that didn't sound like i'm detached from him because I love my baby and I do still have my cuddle and play time with him and he knows he is very much loved. I do miss him being dependent upon me because now it seems he's growing up too fast :-(

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