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Postby MightyMarj » Sat Jul 30, 2011 11:38 am

Tantrums? So this is the first i've had to really deal with this. I know I should count myself fortunate since DS is 3. But since it's new I just don't know how to deal with it.

We were at a play date on Friday. DS had a blast playing with his friend. When it came time to leave, he LOST it. Screaming, crying, running away from me. He went and got on his friend's older sister's bed and promptly wet his pants in protest. Good times!

So I changed his pants and took him aside to say that if he didn't calm down, they might not invite us back. But I still had to half drag him out to the car (along with DD who was crying in solidarity, lol).

Did I handle this right? I'm worried that by saying they might not invite us back, I made DS feel insecure about his friendship. Should I just have gotten to the car ASAP and dispensed with the talk because it's natural 3-year-old behavior? How can I keep this from happening again next time?
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Postby Mistyeyes » Sat Aug 06, 2011 12:11 am

Can you start giving a warning. I know at this age they don't really have a concept of time, but DD responds really well when I say ok, we will be leaving in 15 minutes or whatever it might be. I will then do a reminder every 5 minutes.
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Postby Tiffaney » Tue Dec 06, 2011 12:26 pm

I think you handled it perfectly.

I probably would have gotten into the car and then had the talk. When DD has tantrums at home we usually put her in her room and tell her she can come downstairs when she can be a good girl.
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