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Postby mrsjoh » Sat May 02, 2009 11:03 am

we are back in the hospital after being home 4 days, what we do is dh works every day, so I am with Jasper and we switch every other night so the other can go home and get sleep... i figured we would be around this weekend together, i know dh is stressed so am i, so today he goes to play golf which is fine he does that for 4 hours or so, leaves at 1pm, then is going to friends to watch the game tonight and sleep over and come back here tomorrow,
but I am sad he doesn't want to spend his day off with his family, at least some time

maybe if i said choose one activiy? golf or going to the game? but then when I say something, he acts like, oh great, now I feel bad, should i just not go then and gets all pouty.........

so I am at the hospital all day by mysef again

ugg i am so angry today and hate everybody
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Postby mamalynn » Sat May 02, 2009 12:16 pm

gosh, i am so sorry he doesn't realize his family needs and wants him there. maybe this will rejuvenate him some and he'll see what is important to you both. i wish i were there to pass the time and enjoy some good company like jasper. :) is there anyone else you could ask to come over? hopefully you will get some time to relax as well. hugs to you mama!
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Postby SMCMomofTwoBoys » Sun May 03, 2009 6:44 am

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Postby Quinn » Mon May 04, 2009 4:46 pm

Hang in there mama. You are doing such a good job. DH's often zone out while the women handle all the important parenting and family issues. You are one strong woman for all you have been through!
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Postby last1 » Mon May 04, 2009 8:02 pm

I spent a six year stretch in hospitals so I know what your going thru as well as him. Maybe it was a coping mechanism for your dh? Oddly enough I woud "throw temper tantrums" and run away sorta. Id go dive into work or friends and would be gone for 8hours and it would feel like 1. kwim? But I was damn aware of the hours that others were gone.

One thing that I did was pay attention to other kids. I did the well Im better than that and at least we dont have that kinda thing. Sounds snotty but it works wonders to your psychie.

Prayers and peaceful vibes to you!
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Postby Nina3117 » Fri May 15, 2009 10:21 am

I know ho wyou feel. Elizabeth has been in the hospital now for 6 weeks and three surgeries. I wish we were at the same hospital, we could keep each other company. We are at UMASS Children's Medical Center though in Worcester. we've been debating whether to switch her to Children's or leave her here. They are doing a great job here so here we stay for now.
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Postby ZiggyGirl » Fri May 22, 2009 5:49 pm

hugs, mama! we only had two weeks in the NICU, but it killed me when dh did similar stuff. i realize now that it was his coping mechanism. didn't make it any easier at the time, but does make me less mad looking back.
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