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For those of you who had PPD...

Postby meggola » Thu Apr 18, 2013 8:08 am

How soon did it set in and was it a constant everyday feeling or was it more day to day? I've had some pretty bad baby blues since my milk came in and it seems to be getting worse not better. It's still day to day though - yesterday I was a mess and could barely take care of the babies, today I feel much better (though not 100%). I see my OB again this afternoon as I'm still having physical problems as well (incision is still really sore and swollen 3 1/2 weeks out and last night I got up to feed Amelia and I collapsed on the bedroom floor - legs just gave out).
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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby imdesired » Thu Apr 18, 2013 12:37 pm

I think you should call your Dr. asap.
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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby buggie » Thu Apr 18, 2013 1:14 pm

I don't know when mine set in exactly but they say it can start any time in the first year or so. I finally realized it at 6 months when a friend had a baby and talked about the baby blues. Then two weeks later she was rhapsodizing about how wonderful she felt now and I realized that it had been 6 MONTHS for me and I still felt like crap.

It NEVER hurts to talk to someone, so I would call your OB even if you have good days once in a while. I did too. But once I got help, I felt like I fell in love with my boys finally and was able to handle everything MUCH better.

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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby meggola » Thu Apr 18, 2013 3:51 pm

Thanks ladies. I'm sill anemic and BP was low today, so that's why I collapsed last night - got up out of bed too fast. OB isn't sure if I'm having PPD yet - could be pure exhaustion on top of baby blues, but I'm going to start seeing my therapist weekly again and see what she thinks and am under instructions to call OBs office or go to ER if things get too serious.
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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby JADE0199 » Thu Apr 18, 2013 5:46 pm

First off, Congrats on the birth of your twins!!
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. I can relate, 100%. When I gave birth to my twin boys, I hemmoraged and needed two blood transfusion after my c/section. It was horrible. I was extremely tired and weak and hurting terribly. On top of it all, I had PPD. I knew I did, but didn't want to admit it. I went through bouts of depression off and on but I never really got any help. It got better at around 6 months.

When I gave birth to my daughter. I had TERRIBLE PPD. I didn't instantly bond with my baby girl and it was frustrating. I became depressed. On top of it all, a week after her birth, I got Bell's Palsy and the right side of my face was numb and couldn't move the muscles on that side of my face! It was horrific! This time I mentioned PPD but the OB did not help me and just said, "let's just wait and see how it goes".

With the birth of my g/b twins, I INSISTED on treatment for PPD and with the OBs knowing I have 3 other children to take care of at home, they did not hesitate giving me medications for PPD. It bothered me at first to take it while breastfeeding but I knew I needed help and I have no regrets. I loved it. I was able to fall in love and bond with my twins and enjoyed pumping for them. I did not experience any depression and in fact, it helped me with anxiety. They prescribed me Sertraline 50mg. taken once a day.

There are a lot of options out there that are medication free, I just wanted to share with you my experiences and what helped me. lots of hugs. you'll get through this.

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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby meggola » Thu Apr 18, 2013 9:02 pm

Cathy, thank you so much for sharing! I'm so sorry for all you went through - wow. I'm glad you can relate to the anemia and its effect on recovery. I've been really caught off guard by that. It's so frustrating to be almost a month into this and still feel physically unable to care for my babies without full time help around. No doubt that's contributing to my feelings of helplessness and depression. Thanks for the info on BFing and PPD too.
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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby babydust2me » Fri Apr 19, 2013 8:02 am

I'm sorry you're struggling. I think it's great that you're going to see your therapist.

I did feel pretty overwhelmed at times in the beginning but I bonded pretty easily with my girls and for the most part I was pretty happy PP. If you're feeling off, it doesn't hurt to get yourself checked. PPD is perfectly normal and can happen more often with twins and if you think you may have it, definitely don't ignore it. :hugs:
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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby hazelbazel » Fri Apr 19, 2013 7:54 pm

I too have gone through it with both of my previous pregnancies and in the beginning it was hard to tell if it was PPD or baby blues. But with my second baby the day I gave birth I started back on antidepresants to try to counter it. That didn't even work for me and I had to try for about a year to find the right drug combination to help me, as I was pretty much bedridden with depression it got so bad. I haven't been able to get off the drugs ever since and I had to go see a specialist when we were deciding whether to have another baby or not. It turned out that I was advised to go ahead with another pregnancy while on the meds. So I am medicated to this day. I guess my point is, don't hesitate to get evaluated for it and be your own best advocate if they don't take you seriously, because it can get really bad. If left untreated (or not treated the right way) you can become completely incapable of taking care of yourself and your babies. So, yes, as other's have said, talk to your doc right away about it! All the best to you! I'm here if you need to talk more about it. Feel free to PM me. :)
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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby meggola » Fri Apr 19, 2013 11:27 pm

Wow, I'm so sorry you have it so bad! I've dealt with depression on and off throughout my life, so I know how hard it is and to be bedridden with it, especially with LOs to take care of - that must be just awful. Thanks for the support!
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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby GreekMythFreak » Sat Apr 20, 2013 3:05 pm

I think starting with your therapist is a good and definintely keep an eye on it. Don't be afraid to ask for help. HUGS. The beginning with twins is tough, feel free to come vent, share, ask for help here :) T&Ps
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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby waiting43sux » Sun Apr 21, 2013 8:39 am

Lurking from may ddc, i battle depression also, its a hard thing to do when your life is great, you have healthy children and nothing to actually be depressed about its really hard to come to terms with. After dd#2 i became instantly depressed. It was very bad... i completely fell off my rocker. After having an emergency sec, my iron dropping to very dangerous levels and fighting with her father everything was way too much. I began abusing drugs to fill the void and was trying to self medicate because i didnt realize it was ppd. Always talk to your doctor if something doesnt feel right. I really hope you start feeling better, dont be ashamed if you need medication sometimes its for the best...
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Re: For those of you who had PPD...

Postby buggie » Sun Apr 21, 2013 1:20 pm

I agree with Waiting about meds. If you need them, don't feel bad. I am on Prozac after a HORRIBLE 2 weeks on Zoloft (the dead last thing a mom with two babies to take care of and ppd to deal with needs is horrible nausea all day, everyday!). The Prozac is the best thing ever. I feel 100% like me, minus the worrying that I had prior to my pregnancy and the boys' birth. I honestly felt completely back to myself within a week of being on the right med at the right dosage. And I feel no shame in needing it at all, its what worked for me.
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