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Postby tsweetiee » Tue Aug 25, 2009 12:18 pm

I am 28 yr old and My hubby is 35....I just had a miscarriage last week in 14th week of my pregnancy..this was my first pregnancy. Baby stopped growing from 11 th week and then heart beat got stopped .. I didnt had any pain just had some spotting and we did sonography and there was no heart beat.. Dr did D & C (curettene) .
i am feeling very sad from that time and I want to get pregnant again.
Is it ok to start for trying after one successful cycle ? what are my chances to get pregnant again ? Can somebody please share there successful storries..I heard it is easy to get pregnant if you start trying just after miscarriage...
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Postby Amidala » Tue Aug 25, 2009 7:04 pm

First of all, let me say how sorry I am for what happened and what you are going through. I know the emotional pain you are feeling and how all-consuming it can feel. My first pregnancy ended in a m/c at 8 weeks and they think the baby stopped growing at around 6 weeks or so. I went for my first u/s and they couldn't find a heartbeat and said the baby looked "very early."

As far as trying again after one cycle, I would first listen to what your doctor suggests. My doctor told me to wait three cycles before trying again. I would think that since you were much further along, that waiting three cycles would be a good idea.

I totally understand the feeling of needing to get pregnant again right away, but I think that those three months really gave my body time to heal properly and it allowed me time to emotionally process what had happened to me and to make some kind of peace with the baby I lost.

You want to make sure that your uterus is healed and ready to support another baby, and after carrying a baby for 14 weeks, I don't know if one cycle is enough time.

I guess that, in the end, it's a personal choice, but I would definitely discuss it with your doctor first and see what he/she says.

Good luck and just know that you will never ever forget this baby but that time will make things better.
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Postby AmandaBug » Tue Aug 25, 2009 8:42 pm

first i want to say how sorry i am and no words can express the pain that you feel. I have lost 2 babies both around 8 weeks and had to have a D&C. Dr. gave me the go ahead to start trying after 1 cycle. BUT I would listen to what you doctor has recommended especially since you were further along. But i guess its really all up to your own discretion.

I wish you a lot of luck! and hope that your next pregnancy goes wonderfully.
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Postby Lovie » Wed Aug 26, 2009 7:38 am


I’m extremely sorry for your loss. I know how you are feeling right now all too well (unfortunately).

I’ve had three consecutive losses before having my son. My first was a chemical, my second was a missed m/c at 12 weeks (d&c performed) and my third was due to triploidy 69 at 11 weeks (d&c performed). With each of my miscarriages, my doctor suggested that we wait at least one full cycle, which we did. I’m not sure about being more fertile after a m/c, but after our first loss, we got pregnant two cycles later, after our second loss, we got pregnant three cycles later and after our third, we got pregnant after one full cycle; resulting in our son.

Again, like the pps, I would go with what your doctor recommends as I believe every person/situation is different. I also want to wish you so much luck the next time around. And remember, never lose hope; it will happen when it’s suppose to.

All the best.

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Postby tsweetiee » Wed Aug 26, 2009 9:36 pm

Thanks all for positive replies .. I hope i will get out of my loss soon and get pregnant soon.. Me and my DH thinking of waiting for 1 cycle to start ttc again. Please pray for me this will not happen in future.
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Postby Carrie11 » Mon Aug 31, 2009 7:12 am

I got pg a month to the day after my d&c

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Postby kaw » Mon Aug 31, 2009 6:16 pm

hugs and thoughts to you

I had a DandC after finding out bub had died at 8 weeks(was 12 when i found out) ....

doc said to wait three they were testing for partial molar but also to recover and we did and got pregnant with Ethan.

then got pregnant and lost baby naturally at 6 weeks and waiting 6 months..trying for about 2/3 and got pregnant this time.

Af took 6-7 weeks to return first time:(
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