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Postby emszii » Wed Jun 09, 2010 6:06 am

Hi everyone,

I am freaking at at the moment and trying to keep my stress under control but finding it VERY hard... :( I am PETRIFIED I'm going to have another miscarriage.

My Husband, my best friend and my mum all keep telling me to chill out but I can't....no matter how hard I try. I keep thinking the worst and that when we go for the scan there'll be no heartbeat just like last time.

I desperately need some coping strategies from any of you girls who have been where I am. How did you get through the first 12 weeks and not panic over every little niggly pain (yesterday I had the tiniest bit of blood streaked CM - started me on a downward spiral).

I'm normally such a level headed person but thinking of miscarrying again has got me so worried.

Thanks so much :oops:
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Postby Footballmama » Wed Jun 09, 2010 9:41 am

Hi Emszil,

I can't really give you any advice, but let you know I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm not going in for my fist u/s until the 24th and I'm freaking out that it's gonna be like last time too.

I've downloaded two guided pregnancy meditations onto my ipod that seem to really help me relax, but they're only 7 minutes long so it only helps for so long. :?: :hugs:

Other then that, I'd love to hear advice from other ladies too.
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Postby dansgirl » Wed Jun 09, 2010 10:53 am

I to know how you are feeling. We got pregnant at this time last year as well and lost the baby at around 8 weeks. (after having 3 chemical pregnancies) I am trying so hard to stay positive it is difficult. I don't go for an ultra sound until June 30th I will be almost 9 weeks. Although I am nervous and scared I wish it were sooner. I am sure i could get in sooner but dh told me to relax and wait until the apt. It is hard for me to.
Maybe we can all help each other. I know for myself this time around I have much better medical care and that is helping me cope.

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Postby emszii » Wed Jun 09, 2010 11:26 am

Hey you guys,

Definatley for sure, hopefully we can help each other through the wait. I'm going to see the Midwife on Monday so then I'll find out when my first scan will be. It's so hard not to concentrate on the negative but I made myself a promise today that everytime I get a bad thought, I'm going to imagine it as a piece of paper, and I'm going to screw up that paper and throw it away (sort of positive visualization) so far it seems to be working :idea:
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Postby smomj » Wed Jun 09, 2010 7:22 pm

There is no trick or quick cure. It is completely natural to feel this way especially after a loss or 2 or 6. I think about it everyday because for me there is no safe zone. I just take a deep breath and take one day at a time. I listen to my body and make all the right choices, follow all the guidelines right down to not eating lunch meat. So this way if something does happen again, I will know in my heart that it is nothing that I did wrong.

I do feel a little better now. I am so in tune with my little girl, that when I am concerned, I sit back & close my eyes. I concentrate on my baby, I can feel her bump around and even roll now. It's more reassuring than any doppler you could ever buy :wink:

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Postby eshetz » Fri Jun 11, 2010 5:13 am

Emsizl,

I am in the same boat as you! Last year I had a missed m/c. Saw the hb at 6 wks and then went at 9 wks and no hb. It was devestating! It took us over a year to get pg again only to have a chemical. Right after the chemical I got pg with this LO and I am also petrified! I completely convinced myself that I was miscarrying 2 weeks ago and went for a scan last Friday and everything was perfect. I was so excited for about 4 days and am now back to worrying. DH is sick of me worrying...I am sick of my worrying, but I can't help it. I keep trying to tell myself that I can not control what happens and its in Gods hands...but its still so hard!

So...I don't really have any advice for you since I can't even help myself. Maybe we can help eachother because no one really gets it unless they have been through it. So... :kiss: and lets try to have a good day. I am trying to get through this one day at a time!
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Postby emszii » Fri Jun 11, 2010 9:50 am

eshetz wrote:Emsizl,

I am in the same boat as you! Last year I had a missed m/c. Saw the hb at 6 wks and then went at 9 wks and no hb. It was devestating! It took us over a year to get pg again only to have a chemical. Right after the chemical I got pg with this LO and I am also petrified! I completely convinced myself that I was miscarrying 2 weeks ago and went for a scan last Friday and everything was perfect. I was so excited for about 4 days and am now back to worrying. DH is sick of me worrying...I am sick of my worrying, but I can't help it. I keep trying to tell myself that I can not control what happens and its in Gods hands...but its still so hard!

So...I don't really have any advice for you since I can't even help myself. Maybe we can help eachother because no one really gets it unless they have been through it. So... :kiss: and lets try to have a good day. I am trying to get through this one day at a time!



Hey thanks so much all you guys, I'm just trying to take it one day at a time at the moment and so far so good, I''ve managed to lower my stress levels and everytime I start to worry I just push those thoughts away... :)
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Postby irishsweetie2003 » Fri Jun 11, 2010 11:41 am

It's hard and you'll always be worried untill you see that HB and then clear the second trimester.... I still worry because I have miro preemies..... Babies born extreemly preeie like at 28 1/2 weeks.... So, I can't exhail till I get over the 36 week hurdle....
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Postby emszii » Thu Jun 17, 2010 10:25 pm

I had some brown bleeding so convinced my doc to send us for an ultrasound yesterday - We saw the heartbeat and a little bubble measuring 4mm!!!

I thouhg I was 7 weeks along but the doc said it measures 6 weeks :) :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump:

Not as far along as I thought but I can rest easier now!!! YAY!!!
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Postby punkykittysexpecting » Sat Jun 19, 2010 5:56 am

glad to hear that all is going well! woot woot!
im so with you on being petrified!! i had some light spotting today when i went to the bathroom, the piece of tp was light pink, and now im freaking out!! im waiting on my doctor to call me back. of course it doesnt help that i was doing some heavy lifting before it. but it went away already... and it better stay away! i dont want to see blood. that's the last thing us angel mommies want to see.
hopefully i can convince my doctor to give me another ultrasound to make sure that everything is okay. im 6wks3dys today. and when i was in the er for finding out i have a cyst on my ovary, i was 5wks3dys, and i saw the sac with the yolk. so hopefully everything is still doing okay.
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