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Postby Tabithasmum » Mon Sep 13, 2010 10:10 pm

i totally hear what you are saying!!!!! i'm hiding my bump but if i'm honest there is another reason...i don't want people to ask me about my pregnancy or how many children i have it still hurts when i see people flaunting their pregnancies and i'm pregnant myself!


giant hugs to everyone and anyone who feels like this or has experienced the loss of a precious baby, it changes us.In my experience unless you have experienced baby loss no amount of explaining will make you get how much it hurts!
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Postby Shazza » Tue Sep 14, 2010 10:59 am

I wish i could remember back to the blissful, innocent ignornance of my first pregnacy with DD...

I live in constant fear everday now. Sadly I will probably never fully enjoy another pregnancy again and I feel like slapping all the smug pregnant women out there - that's so bad.

I am so sorry for your losses ladies.
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Postby bernababe » Tue Sep 14, 2010 9:29 pm

Yes I feel sad and emotional for those ttc who have fertility problems and losses. It took us 3 years and 2 losses to have our miracle baby and I remember the heartache still.

I pray for those who want children and pray for the sensitivity of those who have not had to go through these challenges.
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Our angel Kyle Ethan 07/2007 @ 24wks
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Postby abgil » Wed Sep 15, 2010 8:42 am

I feel the same way. We had two miscarriages before this pregnancy. My heart hurts for those who are still struggling with trying to conceive, and I still have that instant hurt when I hear women talk about how easy it was for them to get pregnant.

I have a friend who had endometreosis like me who is still not pregnant. I know the pain that she is going through, and I definitely don't flaunt it in front of her. I still feel her pain.
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Postby mommyofgirls » Wed Sep 15, 2010 2:45 pm

Yeah, That's me too. I'm a compassionate person. I know all the despair I felt & know that person is feeling the same way. I still have issues with grief from my MC. Don't know if you remmeber me from the MC support boards on the TTC side? But a few of my DDC members are unfort there and I have been absent since as I don't want to hurt them. I do like to post to help others & myself in the process but feel it's not a good place right now. I don't want them to hurt anymore or have any reminders.
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Postby mommyofgirls » Thu Sep 16, 2010 9:59 am

Yes, thankfully we have seen it twice on US. Last one was 2 weeks ago. I haven't found it yet by doppler. Will feel so much better when I can.

I hear you. My angel was also a August baby. August 17th,2008 was my day. Caroline my rainbow baby was born in January 2009. I see your due in Jan too :D I was due Jan 13th, but she came 10 days early on Jan 3rd instead. I had that fateful last ultrasound Jan 15th the previous year before Caroline so everything came full circle that month. It was wierd. I'm glad she came earlier. I got my BFP in August so this has been the first August that wasn't dreadful. I had a very hard pregnancy with Caroline just from all the emotions of the loss before her. Even though I was noticeably pregnant that August I should have delivered I was so desperately sad. I had a lot of guilty feelings as well. I felt so guilty for being excited about having Caroline, it was quite the tug of war with my heart strings. So far I don't have that this time. I am happy to think I may have a pregnancy with some sort of peace since my loss.
Giant Hugs momma. It's so hard.
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