How can it be 3 yrs already

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How can it be 3 yrs already

Postby mommyofgirls » Wed Jan 26, 2011 11:44 pm

Seriously I just looked at my ticker after I posted and It's been 3 years already since my angel passed. I can't believe it. It doesn't feel that long to me at all. I feel relief the month is almost over. I hate this month. It always sucks pregnant or not. I will say this month has been less tearful than the other anniversaries. But August (my EDD) is always really painful. All the what-ifs... I really detest that. I think about everyday what was wrong. It just plagues me. I have found 2 other stories that match mine exactly online but neither know either. I really want to know. It just saddens me I will never know the diagnosis. I haven't felt an closure for all the torture I went through those almost 4 weeks not knowing & my OB not knowing either what the heck was going on and if and when the MC would evidently take place. I wish I knew so I could come to peace with it all.
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:angel: Angel:1/16/2008 via D&C @ 9.5weeks
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Postby zohbeeeee » Sun Jan 30, 2011 7:23 pm

So sorry for your loss. How come they could not give you any answers? Did you have a biopsy? I can't imagine how much harder it would be not to know what went wrong. Mine was a trisomy 22 so just knowing that it was nothing that I did gives me some comfort. My due date was last weekend and it was very painful. I know how you must feel. We have been there and are here for you.
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Postby mommyofgirls » Mon Jan 31, 2011 6:38 pm

I didn't have him/her tested. I asked my OB as I really wanted it done and she said you've had 2 healthy babies, we only test after the 3MC. I know lots of OB's have to wait 3 times rule but it sucks. What-ifs suck.
Michele: 32 Dh:31
:babyg: 3/16/1997
:babyg: 7/7/2006
:babyg: 1/3/2009
:angel: Angel:1/16/2008 via D&C @ 9.5weeks
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BFP:August 10th 2010 9/3 :hb: 131 11/22 :hb: 146
:babyg: My LOVE: Ella is here! April 8th,2011 7lbs 5.8oz
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Postby stuckunderhere » Tue Feb 01, 2011 6:12 am

zohbeeeee wrote:So sorry for your loss. How come they could not give you any answers? Did you have a biopsy? I can't imagine how much harder it would be not to know what went wrong. Mine was a trisomy 22 so just knowing that it was nothing that I did gives me some comfort. My due date was last weekend and it was very painful. I know how you must feel. We have been there and are here for you.


I had a 12wk Tri22 loss in October and its not making this pgncy really easy. I've had 5 losses and only have 1 child. This worries me a lot!
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