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Nervous about birth and infancy after stillborn

Postby jessie2354 » Mon Aug 22, 2011 6:38 pm

I'm making myself insane lately with all of the possibilities of things that could go horribly wrong. I'm terrified of another stillbirth and then out of the coocoos nest about SIDS. I'm already having nightmares about being away from her and completely untrusting of anyone but DH and I to watch her. And we can't afford for me to be a stay at home mom as much as I'd like to, let me refraze that, need to for my sanity.

I already started talking to DH about anyone caring for her WILL be taking a parenting class with us since things change in child care all the time. And anyone wanting to be arpund her WILL also be getting their whooping cough and in my mothers situation a pneumonia shot. But how on earth do I start to let go of all of these fears I have?

I should mention that I'm sure most of this is just further aggravated by the fact that we lost our son to Trisomy 18 and there was nothing I could have done to save or help him in anyway, it was just the way God made him. So this time I feel overly protective because I can help her I can keep her outta harms way, so I feel hell bent on making sure I do that in every way possible.
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Postby OS1 » Tue Aug 23, 2011 5:13 pm

Sent you a PM.
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Postby jessie2354 » Wed Aug 24, 2011 5:45 am

OS1 Thank you for responding, but I never got your PM. I tried PM'ING you last night but it occurred to me this morning that if PM isn't working obviously you wouldn't have gotten mine either. Lol
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Postby OS1 » Fri Aug 26, 2011 5:39 pm

Hopefully it worked this time!
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Postby trevorsmommy2 » Wed Aug 31, 2011 12:36 am

I can only imagine the fears. This is my first pregnancy after my full term stillborn son - and I'm doing ok right now as I've never really had an issue early in pregnancy. I am nervous as I look forward though and wonder how I will handle the later weeks of pregnancy. I lost my son due to a compressed cord because it was wrapped around his neck very very tight.. and we found out the day before I was scheduled to be induced.. so for me also, there was nothing I could do to save him. I just plan on trying my best to stay positive and know that every step I take I am doing everything I can for a healthy baby. My dr's have already let me know that I am more than welcome to come and see baby whenever I need to - and I'm sure I will take advantage when I'm further along. I send lots of thoughts and prayers your way that you will be able to calm the fears. :) Sorry I'm not much more help as I'm still heading down the path myself.
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