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Postby Shannon88 » Wed Aug 31, 2011 5:51 pm

when people announce their pregnancy at 4 weeks on FB? I mean, I know they are excited and I can't expect them to understand what any of us have been through, but I know through experience that so many things can go wrong at that point. I would just hate for something to happen and for people to have to learn the hard way, kwim?
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Postby MamaDoula » Thu Sep 01, 2011 11:56 am

I would'nt say annoyed but it certainly does baffle me for sure. :roll:
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Postby punkykittysexpecting » Thu Sep 01, 2011 3:23 pm

it does kinda annoy me. cuz i agree, so many things can go wrong. and than they have to tell the whole fb family if things go wrong. its just too upsetting. having been there. i dont announce on fb til im 12-13 weeks. maybe sooner, cuz im excited... but all my close friends are there. i dont have too many friends. so i dunno. but 4 weeks is definately too early to say anything.
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Postby Shanna82 » Fri Sep 02, 2011 10:12 am

I personally would NEVER announce it on facebook that early...especially since I've experienced a m/c in the past. Perhaps they have never had one, so they don't realize how common it is, etc. The only people I tell immediately are my inlaws, my parents and DH, and even then I feel bad about telling the parents sooo early...but we are just way too excited! :)
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Postby trevorsmommy2 » Sat Sep 03, 2011 10:17 am

I told on facebook after we heard the heartbeat at 7 weeks.. BUT.. I don't have anyone but good friends and family on my facebook so it really didn't matter to me. Plus, for me, having a full term loss - I have to admit it was nice having all the prayers and support of my friends and family on there. I guess it would definately be different if you have a lot of people you aren't that close with on there.
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Postby punkykittysexpecting » Sun Sep 04, 2011 3:31 pm

trevorsmommy2 wrote:I told on facebook after we heard the heartbeat at 7 weeks.. BUT.. I don't have anyone but good friends and family on my facebook so it really didn't matter to me. Plus, for me, having a full term loss - I have to admit it was nice having all the prayers and support of my friends and family on there. I guess it would definately be different if you have a lot of people you aren't that close with on there.



this..... i agree with.
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Postby HawkeyeGirl18 » Mon Sep 05, 2011 8:52 am

I'm always a bit surprised by it and annoyed/jealous because it would be so nice to be pregnant assuming that everything is just perfect and not be worried at all about going through a loss. I didn't announce it on FB until after our third ultrasound when our MFM said that the chance of a miscarriage was pretty low.
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Postby äiti » Sat Sep 10, 2011 12:20 am

When I had my son, I was unaware how common a miscarriage could be, so I kind of understand.

I have had one now, and I have not announced on FB yet. My mom and DH did, though so some of my friends know, but mainly closer ones.
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Postby waitingforbaby2012 » Sun Sep 11, 2011 9:47 am

Yeah..totally jealous. I wish I could be that way and just KNOW that a + pregnancy test = a healthy baby. Unfortunately for me, that isn't the case.

I don't plan on announcing this pregnancy on FB at all. We haven't even told family yet.
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Postby djdebz » Wed Sep 14, 2011 11:41 pm

Some people are lucky to never have lost a baby and their naivity makes them confident enough to be able to share that happy news so early. I wish I could relate to that! For this pregnancy I didnt announce it on facebook until 21 weeks, before then only a handful of close friends and family knew.
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Postby Shannon88 » Tue Sep 20, 2011 4:48 pm

waitingforbaby2012 wrote:Yeah..totally jealous. I wish I could be that way and just KNOW that a + pregnancy test = a healthy baby. Unfortunately for me, that isn't the case.

I don't plan on announcing this pregnancy on FB at all. We haven't even told family yet.


We feel the same way and haven't announced it either. I did tell my parents around 18 weeks because they are old and I was afraid when everyone came to visit for Christmas, it was kind of ambushing them, but I think when you've been where we have, it's just not something you need extra attention paid to, kwim?
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Postby Heather32 » Tue Sep 20, 2011 6:59 pm

Maybe I would feel that way too but I feel the opposite. I lost my baby at 14 weeks. I was in the "safe" period and we had already seen the heartbeat at a dating ultrasound. I wish my customers at work didn't know about me being pregnant as I was already in maternity clothes so I had to "undo" the telling of them along with everyone else but for me waiting wouldn't have mattered as I was past 12 weeks. I agree I was jealous of people who were blissfully ignorant about miscarriage but I have also felt that way about people who think a heartbeat and the second trimester makes them safe. Or morning sickness for that matter as all of those things meant nothing for me. I say there really is no right time to announce. This last time I announced at the same time as gender announcement 20 weeks.
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Postby rachelrhin0 » Fri Dec 09, 2011 7:00 pm

It doesn't bother me. I guess b/c I have never had a m/c. I had an infant loss of my 4 month old daughter and a stillbirth at 32 weeks. So I know that ANYTHING can happen at ANYTIME for no apparent reason during a pregnancy., What DOES anoy me is that people assume that once you pass 12 weeks you are "safe" when that is not true. You are never "safe" until you have your living, breathing baby in your arms.

So no, I dont get bothered by it. I actially think it;s great. Those women are not only excited about their pregnancy they are reaching out for support. And God forbid something happen, but if it does, look how much MORE support they would have if others knew about their pregnancy.

Me personally I tell of my pregnancies the day I find out. It helps me feel more like I'm in a "safe place" with those who care about me and are praying for a healthy baby from day one. I think support after a loss is VERY important. Heck support without a loss is very important IMO.
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