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Pregnancy after stillborn

Postby 02Mama » Sun Jan 29, 2012 6:27 am

Ok Im not here to write introduce myself again and talk about my stillbirth that happened late last year. But more to talk about mycurrent emotions reguarding a current pregnancy and my first baby shower post dead baby. Where do I start. 5 months ago or so I gave birth to a stillborn little girl. It was very hard. I seemed to heal or as much as you can heal pretty well on the outside. Well let me just cut to the chase, I have a co worker who is pregnant and was due is due 6 weeks behind my original due date. I lost my baby she is still pregnant. I am close with this coworker and I am really really happy for her. It was a lil hard coming back to work and seeing her very pregnant belly but I managed to smile in my hint of pain and I was even able to give advise and talk to her about her upcoming baby. But today is her baby shower at work. Now you may say, well you are pregnant now, Why are you still sad. But oddly enough It still makes me sad and makes me wanna cry a lil. I cant escape it because the baby shower is here at work. THank god I cant leave my desk because an hour of that might make me cry. I thought getting pregnant again might somehow magically eliminate my pain or somehow make it unrecognizable but it hasnt. It has given me something to look forward to but I still feel sad and even sadder to day with a babyshower going on. Im just venting, needed to get it out.
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Postby nanette78 » Mon Jan 30, 2012 11:34 am

Hi there,

Well, I have been in your shoes too my friend. A friend of mine got pregnant around the same time (she was 3 weeks behind me) but I delivered at 21 weeks to a little guy with bilateral kidney failure, he didnt make it. But my friend continued on to full term, I avoided all baby showers, kind of avoided her too and any other pregnant lady for a looooong time! It takes time to heal, and that's ok. You don't have to go to her baby shower just because it's at work, you're not ready and I'm sure she understands that. Don't stress and try and enjoy the new baby that is starting to grow inside you. Take the time you need, the heart takes a long time to heal even though your brain says you're fine. I am currently pregnant with my "Rainbow Baby" and full of the same emotions as you I'm sure. We cannot change what might happen, having a baby is an absolute miracle and we just have to hope for the best always! I hope I've helped calm your nerves. :hugs:
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Postby 02Mama » Fri Feb 17, 2012 11:15 pm

WOW I am just reading your reply, and I am sooo happy that you responded, It's nice to hear someone has been in the same shoes as me and knows exactly how I feel:)
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