Pregnant after the death of a child

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Pregnant after the death of a child

Postby laurazap1980 » Wed May 01, 2013 4:28 pm

Hi Ladies
I just confirmed today that I am pregnant with my third child. While this is amazing news, it is also so difficult because our daughter died 8 months ago. She was 10 months and 3 days old and she was here one day and dead within 12 hrs. She was a perfectly healthy child- she contracted a rare bacterial infection that turned her septic. This will be our rainbow baby. It's hard because I am so excited, but also so overwhlemed with worry and stress and emotion. Just wondering if anyone else can relate.
Thanks,
Laura
Sunshine Baby- Samuel 5 years old (Oc 10, 2008)
Angel Baby- Bethany: 10 months and 3 days old (Oct 24, 2011)

BFP test April 29th, 2013- ended in m/c May 8th, 2013
BFP test July 12th, 2013- ended in m/c July 28th, 2013
BFP test October 15th, 2013- ended in m/c Oct 26th, 2013
BFP test June 2nd, 2014- ended in m/c June 9th, 2014
BFP test Sept 2014- miscarriage a week later
BFP test April 2015- miscarriage on Easter weekend

Can't seem to make it past 6 weeks!
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Re: Pregnant after the death of a child

Postby bazil323 » Thu May 02, 2013 7:30 am

I'm so sorry for your loss! I don't have personal experience with such (I had a chemical pregnancy), but I know there are those who have lost children on this forum. I don't think this section gets a lot of action, but I do know a lot of people on here have had later miscarriages/stillbirths and some have lost babies, so hopefully someone can give some personal experience to help here.

Congratulations on the pregnancy and I hope everything goes well for you!
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Got our BFP on March 6, 2013. EDC November 11. Born November 11, 2013!
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Re: Pregnant after the death of a child

Postby Lilymon » Sat May 04, 2013 12:06 am

Hi
I can relate a little bit. We lost a beautiful baby girl at birth about a year and a half ago. She was perfectly healthy but there were some unexpected labor complications which she just couldn't overcome. She was alive when I delivered her, but a half hour later she was gone. 5 months later we were expecting again but it ended at 8 weeks. I am now 6 weeks pregnant again and it's a whole mish-mash of emotions. Mostly I am scared, but I try to tell myself that lightning cannot strike us again. I take it one day at a time. Hang in there.
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Re: Pregnant after the death of a child

Postby laurazap1980 » Sun May 05, 2013 8:58 am

thanks for sharing ladies. Taking it one day at a time is great advice. I try hard to do so. It's so hard when you have had the unthinkable happen to you. I think it instills such a feeling of vulnerability in us moms. Just trying to take this journey day by day and see how it goes.
Sunshine Baby- Samuel 5 years old (Oc 10, 2008)
Angel Baby- Bethany: 10 months and 3 days old (Oct 24, 2011)

BFP test April 29th, 2013- ended in m/c May 8th, 2013
BFP test July 12th, 2013- ended in m/c July 28th, 2013
BFP test October 15th, 2013- ended in m/c Oct 26th, 2013
BFP test June 2nd, 2014- ended in m/c June 9th, 2014
BFP test Sept 2014- miscarriage a week later
BFP test April 2015- miscarriage on Easter weekend

Can't seem to make it past 6 weeks!
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Re: Pregnant after the death of a child

Postby ete29 » Sun May 05, 2013 5:03 pm

Hugs to you momma. I lost my two year old to cancer in October, and am scheduled to have my IUD out this Tuesday...to say I am petrified is an understatement. But time ticks along, and I know if I am blessed with another child, I won't regret it. I think I would regret never trying again, so here we are....stay strong and breathe. That's all we can do.
DS Dec'08
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Early M/C July '13
DD Jan'15
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Re: Pregnant after the death of a child

Postby Lilymon » Tue May 07, 2013 2:32 am

Thats exactly it. When i was in doubt over whether to try again, my husband said to me: "when you are 50 years old and you look back on what happened,which would you regret more - that you tried again or that you didnt try again?" And thats when i really knew that tring again was the right thing for us.
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Re: Pregnant after the death of a child

Postby laurazap1980 » Tue May 07, 2013 5:16 pm

Thanks ladies. I definitely know I want another baby. But right now being pregnant it's scary. Not too scary to not try but scary none the less. I've started to spot and they think it might be the start of a miscarriage. But this is the risk of life. Fingers crossed the IUD removal is successful!! I think rainbow babies are the best blessing. I believe the bring so much healing and love to a family. I wish rainbow babies on all of us!
Sunshine Baby- Samuel 5 years old (Oc 10, 2008)
Angel Baby- Bethany: 10 months and 3 days old (Oct 24, 2011)

BFP test April 29th, 2013- ended in m/c May 8th, 2013
BFP test July 12th, 2013- ended in m/c July 28th, 2013
BFP test October 15th, 2013- ended in m/c Oct 26th, 2013
BFP test June 2nd, 2014- ended in m/c June 9th, 2014
BFP test Sept 2014- miscarriage a week later
BFP test April 2015- miscarriage on Easter weekend

Can't seem to make it past 6 weeks!
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