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7 months, still trying

Postby jmal » Thu Mar 30, 2017 11:55 pm

Hi,

I'm new to this message board but have been reading the posts and they've been very comforting.

I just turned 36, but we have been trying to get pregnant since last September (when I was 35). I was heartbroken today when my period showed up. I really thought this was the month - I was even feeling pregnancy symptoms (sickness, stuffed nose, serious thirst, cramping, etc.) Looks like it was psychosomatic.

Anyways, I have my first fertility testing appointment on Sunday, which makes me feel like a failure, but I'm also nervous for obvious reasons. I don't want to type too much as I'm feeling upset and frustrated. I'm also angry at myself for waiting so long to try and conceive ... my husband and I should have been trying sooner, as now I want 3 babies and I can't even get pregnant with one. I've never even had a pregnancy scare.

I will continue to read the inspiring BFP stories - they're actually making me feel better. I'm thrilled for the women who have conceived (even though I don't know them) and I hope I can write my happy baby story on here soon enough.

Thanks for listening.
xo
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Re: 7 months, still trying

Postby erin860 » Fri Mar 31, 2017 1:37 pm

Hi, I'm so sorry this has been a stressful experience. it takes lots of healthy couples up to a year to conceive but you are doing the right thing by seeking a fertility assessment after six months since you are over 35. And you definitely need not feel like a failure. Many couples find they need some sort of medical intervention to assist in getting pregnant. But you may find that you just need a little more time and that you don't need any medicine. My advice to anyone ttc is to have sex every other day, use opks, and take your temperature to confirm ovulation. Drink lots of water and check your cm to make sure you are getting ewcm for sperm friendly cm. I have a cousin that had her first when she was 38, her second at 39, and her third when she was 42. Sometimes it just doesn't work out earlier in life. In God's perfect timing everything will work out. When we were trying, I prayed several times a day for a baby...God answers prayers.
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Re: 7 months, still trying

Postby jmal » Fri Mar 31, 2017 11:06 pm

Thanks Erin,

That's really sweet and thoughtful.

Appreciate your comment very much, and will follow your advice.

xo
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Re: 7 months, still trying

Postby Tina03 » Sun Apr 23, 2017 9:25 am

Hi, i know how hard this is...it took me and my hubby about 4 years before finally having our miracle. I have a history of endometriosis, we went to a fertility specialist and i had 2 miscarriages. But all were conceived naturally without any meds. I did nothing special, i do live a healthy lifestyle as much as possible in all aspects since years, means diet, cosmetics, cleaning products etc. I gave up actually after the 2 miscarriages, i let it go, made my peace and 2 month after last miscarriage i got pregnant again, total surprise, not expected, wasn't even trying. Now i'm close to 20 weeks, half of the pregnancy is over. I'm 35 and thought i might end up with no children. I know it's hard to let go or to believe if someone is telling you it's gonna happen, i didn't either but it did in the end. I know it's hard to relaxc and you don't want to hear anyone telling you this over and over but honestly it worked for me. You can't force it and you can't stop your mind from thinking about it all the time. I don't know i just reached a point where i really made my peace, tried to imagine my life without children and was ok with it, just told myself "whatever is ment to be" and obviously i wasn't ment to be without children lol. I wish you all the best! BTW i did do some yoga and pilates, just 10 min at home also for my endometriosis, it really helps you to relax. I only did it once a week. It might not completely makes you be at peace with the whole trying for a baby thing but it at least will give you a bit of peace for that day at least.
2012 - Diagnosed with endometriosis stage II by laparoscopy
2015 Aug 4 - MC identical twins @ 7 weeks, 2016 Oct 10 - MC @ 5-6 weeks

2016 Dec 30 - BFP @ 9 dpo > EDD Sept 13, 2017 BOY


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Re: 7 months, still trying

Postby LauraReddall » Fri Aug 18, 2017 5:02 am

True!
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