Laceyfitz13 wrote:I agree with mom_of_3! Women are completely capable of birthing big babies. There isn't any reason your doctor should even be talking to you about a c-section unless you have a medical reason to do so. Your body was made for this!
While it's true that most women only have babies so big as their body can support that's just not 100% the case.
My baby got stuck (and the poor thing still has little scabs on the back of her head where her head got caught caught on my pelvis.
At my office I have six friends (or their wives) who have attempted vaginal births in the last few years. Three of them it turned out just fine. One had to have the vacuum used to get baby's head out. One had to have an emergency c-section just as I did because heart rate was going bad and baby was stuck. One... they used the forceps and vacuum only to get baby further stuck in there and the surgery they had to perform to get him out made a c-section look like a cakewalk.
Some babies just don't fit (in some cases, still doable but so tight it's dangerous for mom/baby, and in some cases, not at all). I imagine that's one of the many reasons why women and babies died more often in childbirth before modern medicine.
Not trying to scare/bully you into a c-section. It's very, very likely that you can give birth to this baby vaginally, just fine. But I do think it's good that doctor is discussing these risks with you.
I just recommend having a detailed birth plan with lots of contingencies. If you want a vaginal birth then go with that but find out from your doctor in what ways there could be complications due to size and then get it straight now what you'd prefer to do in unlikely event those situations arise (forceps, vacuum, c-section, nothing, etc). Find out the pros/cons/risks to each thing now so you don't have to make a quick, uninformed decision should something unexpected happen.