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being away from baby

Postby jessm » Wed Jun 20, 2012 11:32 am

This is way far off, but hubs wants to take a trip without DS before we try for number 2. I however, would like to nurse longer than that, since DS won't be 2 yet when we go. Should I just pump at night while we're away, and let him have bottles while I'm gone? It will only be a couple of days. I just don't want to wean him early just because DH wants to take a trip.
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Postby victoria_1024 » Fri Jun 22, 2012 5:36 pm

It depends on when you take your trip I suppose. I went away for a weekend when my daughter was 9 months old and I pumped all weekend, and DH gave her bottles of breast milk while I was gone. I went away another weekend when she was 15 months old, and by that time she was only nursing at bedtime so I didn't pump. When I came home, we resumed nursing at bedtime and it wasn't a big deal.
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Postby fodla » Sat Jun 23, 2012 5:39 pm

Well, I personally would not be willing to take a trip longer than an overnight with a child that age, but if you decide this is something you want to do, be prepared for your baby to wean. Pump as much as you need to in order to keep your supply up while you're gone, but Baby may lose interest in nursing when it isn't available.
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Postby LaraE » Sat Jun 23, 2012 6:23 pm

I co-worker of mine went on a business trip for 2-3 days when her baby was 3 months old and she pumped the entire time and had no problems when she returned home. I refused to attend the same business trip because my baby was only 2 months and I couldn't for the life of me fathom being away from her. I still can't, and she's 9.5 months.

I think you can certainly pull it off, as long as you're comfortable with it, you should have no issue.
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Postby mommyofgirls » Sat Jun 23, 2012 11:08 pm

You should pump as you'll get engorged & or get really tender. That would be silly to wean for a short trip i think if your goal was to continue BF'ing.
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Postby jessm » Mon Jun 25, 2012 5:43 am

This will be when Declan is about 18 months old. So its not right now. Currently Declan gets so excited about the boobie I don't see him losing interest in nursing, even if he doesn't have it for a few days. I hate to be away from him, but maybe I'll feel different a year from now. Doubtful.
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Postby specialkel » Mon Jun 25, 2012 12:41 pm

Go and have fun!! It's totally unneccesary to wean just because you are going on a trip, and it is HIGHLY unlikely he will lose interest in the boob while you are away (unless he's starting to self-wean on his own at 18 months, which you would see signs of before going on your trip). Depending on how much he's nursing by then, you may only have to pump once a day.

Unless you are waiting to travel for economic or scheduling reasons (or your own emotional comfort level, of course), there is no reason to wait as far as the child's wellbeing is concerned. Many experts say the best time to travel without your baby is between 6 months and 12 months, for various emotional development reasons.

DH and I recently returned from a 2 night/3 day trip away from both our DDs (6 months and 26 months). My 6 month old is EBF, no solids yet, and she was perfectly fine. She took bottles of expressed BM the whole time, no problems, and I only pumped every 3-5 hours while we were gone (except at night...no way I was interrupting precious sleep to pump!). She took to nursing immediately when we returned, no problems, and is as attached to me as ever. :) I spent the next day or two offering her the boob constantly to regain any dipping supply, but just to be proactive. There was no noticeable drop in supply.

We're going on a 5 day/5 night trip away from the girls in November, when my youngest will be 11 months. She'll take BM bottles (I'll have an enormous freezer stash) and I plan on pumping every 5-6 hours during the day.

I'm an attachment parent and I'm a big believer in the importance of getting away from the little ones for a day or two (or more ;)) a few times a year (assuming you have a trustworthy caregiver that your kids are familiar with and close to). It's mentally and emotionally healthy for all parties involved. Enjoy:)
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Postby jessm » Tue Jun 26, 2012 9:24 am

We will most likely be spending a night apart from him in September. I'm in a wedding and I don't plan on bringing him, and plan on staying overnight in the hotel. Momma needs to let her hair down lol. I plan on getting hammered and pumping and dumping. I don't have much a freezer stash, I have a hard time getting enough as it is.

I have a hard time leaving him period. I don't think I could go away that long right yet. It'll be hard for me to go for even the one night. Since I work full time I feel like the weekends are SO precious and I should soak up every minute.
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Postby victoria_1024 » Sun Jul 08, 2012 6:38 am

18 months is still a long time away, a lot can change. I know it seems like your baby will never stop being addicted to the boob, but a lot changes after they turn 1. A lot of babies self-wean before then. My 17 month old has just self-weaned (but could have more to do with my being pregnant). But even my booby addict son was only nursing once a day at 18 months old. I would plan to take your trip and not worry about it too much right now. :)
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