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Postby jessm » Wed Jul 25, 2012 8:53 am

When did your babies start reliably STTN. DS sttn from 2 months until 4 months. Then I went back to work and he got a cold his first week at daycare. He hasn't returned to STTN. He did it for about a week, and then I moved him to the crib about 3 weeks ago. And now he isn't doing it again. The doctor suggested CIO but I just can't. He's almost 7 months and I don't feel like its right. The past two nights I gave him cereal before bed, and I just put a sound machine in his room. Its helping but he's still getting up around 3/4 AM and then not wanting to go back down. At which point I've been letting him sleep next to me (my rule is not until 5 AM though). I really would like to break that habit, even though I so love my morning cuddles.
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Postby victoria_1024 » Wed Jul 25, 2012 9:09 am

Neither of my kids consistently STTN until after they turned 1. My daughter was a little better than my son, she only woke up once at 5 am but she wouldn't drop that until she was closer to 14 months. She also hit a major sleep regression at 4 months old after STTN so I think that's normal. Oh and she was awful at waking up during the night and then refusing to go back to sleep for 2 hours.

After 2 kids, I've come to think that each child just has this age they reach when they are developmentally ready to STTN. We can do lots of things to try to help them learn good sleep habits, but ultimately when they are ready, they're ready.

If it makes you feel better, my kids are both amazing sleepers now. I am preparing myself for yet another year of no sleep when this new baby comes, but hopefully s/he will be as good of a sleeper as my other 2 at some point!
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Postby jessm » Wed Jul 25, 2012 9:12 am

I wonder if giving him the cereal is even worth it/helping. But he's so skinny I see no reason not to let him eat as much as he wants.
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Postby victoria_1024 » Wed Jul 25, 2012 9:14 am

I always gave my kids yogurt before bed to try to help fill them up (when they were older babies, like 7 months+). I don't know if it helped but I don't know that it hurt!
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Postby jessm » Wed Jul 25, 2012 9:20 am

Yeah we started with yogurt after his 6 month appt and the doctor okayed it. Its what I usually send him to daycare with for his snack. He loves to eat. Eats and eats and eats. I think he has a really fast metabolism.
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Postby LaraE » Wed Jul 25, 2012 12:06 pm

Abby never slept through the night until finally when she was 9 months old i let her cry. It took two nights of her having one crying bout each night, then she started sleeping all night with no problem. She occasionally whines as she is rolling from back to belly, but only for a few seconds.

I never felt comfortable letting her cry when she was younger. Once i realized she was old enough to not need to eat in the middle of the night, i was more comfortable with it.

Its obviously a personal decision.
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Postby BeccaM » Thu Jul 26, 2012 4:38 pm

As an aside, I've heard that rice cereal (or any grains) before 6 - 8 months isn't the best... they digest protein and fat better. So like yogurt or egg yolks.. But that's just my "alternative" information!

As far as the sleep, my son did the same as yours. He STTN (7- 9 hours straight sometimes from 2 1/2 mos until 4-ish months. Then he started teething and never STTN that long again until he was about 11 months.

I think for a while he got where he needed the nursing to go back to sleep. At around 9 -10 months, we started cutting back to 1 feeding total in the MOTN and I had DH go in and soothe him teh rest of the time. Eventually he worked through his batch of teeth and then we switched him to his own room across the hall at 10 1/2 months and that really helped. I think he would hear me moving, wake up and want to nurse.
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Postby jessm » Fri Jul 27, 2012 5:20 am

Hmm I hadn't heard that. But he loves his oatmeal. And he gets plenty of fats and healthy veggies and fruits in addition.

I am going to try not nursing him in the MOTN tonight. Just going and comforting. I don't think its going to work. When he sees me he wants to nurse. And when he sees my husband he gets pissed its not me.
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Postby stefanielynn » Fri Jul 27, 2012 8:25 am

My daughter slept through from about 4 weeks to almost 7 months. Then those teeth started coming in full force (she did okay with the first set at 5 months) and hasn't slept a full night since...she's 16 months today. It took until about 18 months for my son to start sleeping through, but he never had the 6 month period in the beginning of good sleeping. He is a fantastic sleeper now and has been ever since getting over that 18-month hump, so I just keep that in mind when I start getting frustrated with my daughter.

I don't let my kids cry, never have. If they wake up, I go to them and nurse them. My daughter was in my room until just a couple of months ago, and she's sleeping slightly better now that my husband/dog snoring isn't waking her constantly. I try to nurse often during the day, and on the days I'm good about it, she seems to sleep better. At 6 months, I would say it's likely he does still need to nurse at night. Maybe not every 1-2 hours, but probably at least once or twice (and maybe more during growth spurts).
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Postby stefanielynn » Fri Jul 27, 2012 8:26 am

I should also say that I don't think everytime an older baby/toddler cries at night they necessarily need milk, but I think they often need comfort or reassurance. Nursing just seems to be the fastest and easiest way for me to provide that; 2 minutes of boob and she is happy and back in bed!
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Postby jessm » Fri Jul 27, 2012 9:11 am

Yeah the boob really is the fastest way to knock em out lol. Sometimes I just have to pull my shirt up and he's asleep.
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Postby kc12345 » Fri Jul 27, 2012 11:38 am

Hi Jess! We did CIO for my DD's 2am feeding at 5 months, 2 nights, 15 minutes, SO easy and worth it), and then occasionally would wake up from there on out for teething, colds, etc,. But to break the night waking habit, we did CIO where DH went in and patted her, told her we loved her and then left the room. Super worth it in my opinion. DS, 4 months now, was doing 7:30ish-4ish but within the past few weeks it's goine to crap again (4 month regression?). When I get back home (at my parent's for 4 weeks this summer, and I'm back with DH we will def do CIO again. I can't really call it CIO totally b/c we do go to him and pat him.[/quote]
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Postby jessm » Mon Jul 30, 2012 5:19 am

kc I tried CIO last night. epic fail. He cried for 45 minutes. And was showing no signs of stopping. So I went and got him. Going in there and patting him only makes it worse, he gets even more worked up. Friday night he slept 9.5 hours. Total tease
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Postby LaraE » Mon Jul 30, 2012 5:39 am

Jess, just to ease your mind, i tried CIO a time or two but apparently wasnt really ready for it because it was just too traumatizing. I couldnt handle it longer than 25 min so i gave up on it for a while.

Months later when she was 9 mos old i was totally ready and much better equipped for it. Two nights of crying: 45 min first night; 25 min 2nd night and that was it.

Regardless, you have to do whatever YOU are comfortable with.
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Postby LaraE » Mon Jul 30, 2012 5:40 am

Oh and Abby is the same way, if she sees me, that makes it worse.
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