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How to Respond?

Postby DueInMayMamma » Wed Aug 22, 2012 8:43 pm

Just curious, how do you respond to people who kind of scoff at your decision to breastfeed? I'm trying to make it at least 2 years with my daughter, and lately the response I get has been "you're supposed to wean them once they get teeth, walk, age a year old, are 1 month old, etc." it's not really people being mean, just misinformed. I try to respond with facts about the benefits of breastfeeding but it all seems to fall on deaf ears and I end up feeling judged.
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Postby armywife1980 » Wed Aug 22, 2012 10:33 pm

I would just reply that your child's doctor said to allow your LO bf as long as they want to as it's the healthiest thing that your LO can get. If they argue, ask them where they earned their doctorate :lol:
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Postby jessm » Thu Aug 23, 2012 5:17 am

I usually say "I don't see what one has to do with the other." Or say "Actually the research has changed and breastmilk helps support my baby from getting sick while his immune system develops in the first couple of years"
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Postby ajs333 » Thu Aug 23, 2012 7:43 am

I have found that no response is the best response for me. If someone says something like that to me, I just look at them and smile. I figure I don't have to justify what I'm doing to anyone. Fortunately, most people have been quite supportive of me so I haven't been in this situation very often. My mother is actually the worst as far as wanting me to stop bfing. She's always saying things like "you know you aren't going to have a life until you get him off the boob" or "you know he's never going to want to be held by anyone else until you get him off the boob". I usually just sigh and say "yeah I know mom, but I'm just not ready". It's not worth it to me to get in a debate with her. She is so set in her ways, it wouldn't do much good anyway.
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Postby stefanielynn » Thu Aug 23, 2012 12:12 pm

When they complain about how long I plan to nurse, I just mention that the WHO recommends AT LEAST two years. I usually get a surprised "reeeally??". I've found that as long as you are confident in whatever you say, people back off much more quickly than if you seem timid or like you are defending yourself.
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Postby LaraE » Fri Aug 24, 2012 9:47 am

ajs333 wrote:I have found that no response is the best response for me. If someone says something like that to me, I just look at them and smile. I figure I don't have to justify what I'm doing to anyone. .


Totally agree! You shouldn't have to justify to anyone. YOU know what's best.
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Postby fodla » Sat Aug 25, 2012 10:54 am

I usually raise an eyebrow and ask if they've actually bothered to do any research on the subject, and when they say no, go mmmmm.
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Postby DueInMayMamma » Sat Aug 25, 2012 4:23 pm

Lol! Love all the responses! Now I need to find a good one for when my mom tells me that I hold my daughter too much...apparently at 3 months old they should be able to entertain themselves for hours and go to sleep without assistance. ::eye roll::
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Postby jessm » Mon Aug 27, 2012 8:20 am

Tell her that research shows that babies who are held more often and who's cries are responded to quickly actually are better self soothers and more confident as adults.
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Postby fodla » Mon Aug 27, 2012 6:39 pm

jessm wrote:Tell her that research shows that babies who are held more often and who's cries are responded to quickly actually are better self soothers and more confident as adults.

Yes, this. They're also better communicators.
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Postby luvin » Tue Aug 28, 2012 5:49 am

I used to try to be diplomatic and nice, but now I'm just a butt hole. I say they are my boobs, and my baby and I don't ask them what they ate and why they eat it so they shouldn't worry about what my baby eats or what I do with my boobs. Same with "spoiling" the baby. I say they aren't the ones holding her or getting up with her, so if I spoil my baby so be it. It's my baby, not theirs. People now a days think everything is thier business, and it's not. What I choose to do with my children is not thier business, nor is it thier place to correct me. Nice advice is great, but if I choose not to follow it then so be it.
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