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Postby jessm » Wed Aug 29, 2012 8:36 am

So I seem to be inadvertantly starting cosleeping. It is not something I ever wanted to do (nothing against it, I just am obsessive about SIDS and can't use my movement monitor in my bed). However, lil man some nights will NOT go back to bed in his crib. He goes down at the beginning of the night just fine. But after he wakes up he just wants to come to bed with me. I'm not quite sure what to do. I won't do CIO, I actually tried it and it only left me riddled with guilt and him upset.
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Postby stefanielynn » Wed Aug 29, 2012 9:34 am

7 months is around the age I started bedsharing with my daughter. When done correctly, it is very safe. It's actually the accidental (i.e. unexpectedly falling asleep with baby) bedsharing that can be more dangerous since the conditions aren't necessarily the safest. We moved her to her room at 14 months and she does pretty well, though she is still waking a few times a night (ugh). If cosleeping gets you both more sleep, I am all for it, as long as it is something that works for all of you as a family.

Is his crib in your room or another room? If you don't want to bedshare, maybe you could move his crib into your room? He might go to sleep there easier if he knows you are right next to him.
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Postby jessm » Wed Aug 29, 2012 11:14 am

I'm thinking I will try the pack and play in my room to see if that makes a difference. But he starts bugging out even if I am standing there, with my hands on his belly after I put him down.
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Postby stefanielynn » Wed Aug 29, 2012 1:36 pm

I wish I had a good suggestion...my 17-month-old still wakes 2+ times a night (and my oldest did the same until 18 months), so I am certainly not a sleep expert, lol.
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Postby ajs333 » Thu Aug 30, 2012 5:44 am

I don't know what to tell ya either. DS2 has slept in the bed with us since day 1. I also tried a modified CIO method once and I couldn't go through with it. I have no idea what we are going to do. Just wanted you to know you aren't alone. How many times is he nursing during the night? Mine is still nursing 1-3 times usually. Yawn!
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Postby jessm » Thu Aug 30, 2012 7:18 am

Around the same. If I bring him in bed with me he sleeps much more soundly. I guess motherhood really brings things you said you'd never do.
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Postby luvin » Thu Aug 30, 2012 9:18 am

Is he teething? This may be temporary if it's new. I have a pack and play beside the bed with the bassinet insert and the movement monitor under the pad in that. (I cut a tiny hole in the mesh for the cord) I can't get her to stay in it currently though, thanks to some teething. I never wanted to bed share with either kid but ended up doing it with both for periods of time.
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Postby miaowington » Thu Aug 30, 2012 2:09 pm

We are planning to sidecar the crib to the mattress so baby will be right there for middle-of-the-night feedings/comfort/etc, but in its own sleep zone (at least until it gets mobile enough to sneak into the bed). You can do a Google search for "sidecar crib" to look at examples & read more about it. I have friends that do it & it seems to work out nicely for everyone. Calm baby, more well-rested parents.
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Postby jessm » Fri Aug 31, 2012 5:41 am

last night I wrapped him in my Tshirt and it helped a lot.
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Postby fodla » Sun Sep 02, 2012 2:08 pm

That must have been super cute!
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Postby BeccaM » Sat Sep 08, 2012 5:47 am

We co slept most or all of the night until about 2 1/2 months old, then he started sleeping in his arm's reach bassinet, like 6 inches from me LOL.

At around 5 months, he outgrew the bassinet and we side carred a crib. At 8 months, we moved and were staying with my parents in their spare room. He was still in our room but a few steps away in a porta crib. That was a hard time--he woke up a lot between 7 - 9 months, often from teething (I think). I just didn't want to get back into co sleeping at that point, so we fought through it. DH would help sometimes. I nursed several times a night until 10 months.

We finally moved to our new house when he was almost 11 months. He got a new room (right across the hall) at that point and immediately started sleeping better. We eliminated all feedings except the 5 am "put me back to sleep" feeding and he remained waking only once a night (except when feeling bad or teething) until 15 months when he weaned from that feeding (with a little help).

DH helped a lot during these times of transition. Once we switched to one feeding, he would go in and help out if he woke up multiple times a night, so he wouldn't expect nursing.

I might add--my son has never been a great napper. So he's usually tired at night and sleeps decently. But if you DON'T want to co sleep, you have to fight it out and find alternatives, because from what I udnerstand if you give in now, it might take a while to stop. Of course, some people think that's a positive thing, but after the first few months, it wasn't for us :D
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Postby kitcantwait » Tue Sep 11, 2012 1:42 pm

I'm afraid I have no advice, just sympathy :D I never wanted to co-sleep, too nervous, so we started out side-carring, but then co-sleeping just happened somehow and it's how we all seem to get most sleep. But my point I guess is do whatever works best for you, don't do anything you're not comfortable with, and it will all work out. Your DS may just be going through a patch of needing more comfort at the moment, be it teething or whatever, and if co-sleeping is the best solution for you right now, don't feel bad - you're not spoiling him, and he will eventually outgrow it!
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