Pregnancy & Motherhood Forum

by **Meggy1886** » Wed Apr 18, 2012 12:38 pm

So sorry you're having a tough time! I'm pretty much alone with the triplets all of the time...DH always seems to be gone, either due to his work on the railroad or the Air Force, so I'm usually the only one home too! I know CIO can be hard to do, I hate when they cry, BUT it has been a huge blessing for us. We have been letting them self-soothe themselves pretty much since day one and I think that's helped a lot. Corbin is the only one who we still have to let CIO at night when we lay them down. If he's having a rough time, I go in there every 15 minutes to either give him his paci, rub his head, or gently pat his belly. He'll eventually fall asleep! Maybe just give it a try.....you can go in every 5...or 10...or 15 minutes if you want.

Also, when DH is home...force him to help. Men are idiots (can't deny that) and they usually need to be told what to do lol. You need to get rest too because SAHM have a heck of a job to do!

As far as cleaning the house....we have a lady who comes in to help us once a month. She mainly scrubs the floor for us, clean the bathrooms, vacuums the stairs, cleans the living room....and I do the rest of the house. It helps A LOT just to have the extra hands in that department. Maybe look into that?

I hope it gets better for you!! I know how exhausting it can be!

by **caligirl22** » Wed Apr 18, 2012 4:36 pm

I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. I cannot imagine not sleeping for more than 2 hours at a time or being up that many times in the night. You are super woman!

I started sleep training when they came home form the NICU. I used the methods in the book "Healthy sleep habits, happy twins" - lots of good advice there.
I have a 16 year old son, who to this day still doesn't sleep good. I was determined that the twins would be good sleepers. I also recently returned to work, so napping for me is no longer an option. My boys sleep from 10pm-6-7am every night. It took me about 1.5 weeks of being up all night and tending to them to get here, but it was well worth it.

Oh and my DH doesn't *hear* them either, it is just an excuse. He only helps if I ask him.

Good luck!

1 time · by **Lenka** » Thu Apr 19, 2012 6:03 pm

Thank you so much for all of your support and advice , ladies!
Boys have decided to cut me some slack and we had two good nights. The night before I got up twice, once to feed them both, as they woke one after another, and once to replace a paci. And last night i fed them around 4am and then I decided not to get up and let them fuss at 6am, and they both fell asleep after 5 min of fussing and sleep until 8:10! Although, Mika had a high-pitched tantrum, when I was trying to put him back in his crib after the feeding (which never happened before

), but I was able to calm him down and he fell asleep again.
I'm afraid to jinx it, but I'm SO hoping the bad streak is over!

1 time · by **GreekMythFreak** » Thu Apr 19, 2012 11:20 pm

So glad you've had a good 2 nights. Are they on the same feeding schedule? If not, that would really make a HUGE difference for you

Getting up two separate time to feed them throughout the night is too tough

1 time · by **Lenka** » Sat Apr 21, 2012 5:18 am

Robin, they are on the same eating schedule, but I do not wake one up to eat, when the other is up. But 70% of the times they wake up one after another, so I consider it as one time anyway. The thing is, Mika can go without a feeding through the night, and I'm hoping he's moving towards weaning himself off of the night feeding and I do not wake him up when Alex wakes up to eat..

by **heather41** » Sat Apr 21, 2012 11:41 am

I'm sorry you've been having such a hard time of it, but I'm glad you had a good couple of nights. I really hope you can get some help or your babies become better sleepers or both.

I was really losing it at the end of my maternity leave. It was just soooo hard being a SAHM to twins. I don't know how you do it.

2 times · by **buggie** » Sat Apr 21, 2012 1:31 pm

Not sure if you're breastfeeding or not, but if you're using bottles... one thing that's helped us a little is to make the middle of the night feeding a half bottle. It goes SO fast and it tides them both over until morning. They get the right amount of formula total during the day so they don't need a full feeding at 3am. And once in a while they just sleep right through it until 530am.