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44.4 years old Natural BFP (ending in miscarriage)

Hello Fellow Hopeful Mammas,

I just wanted to give all of those 40+ mammas some hope that pregnancy does happen naturally even at this age. And I will try my best to keep it short and to the point. But with that, the following will be very dry and un-entertaining...

I am a 44.4 year old, been trying for 20 months with my 40-year-old new husband whom has never had children. I have 3 children from a previous marriage (ages 16 1/2, 15 and 9 1/2, all boys). Achieved pregnancy on 3rd month with first son, 2nd month with 2nd son, and for the 3rd son, was not even trying as husband had a vasectomy 5 years prior, but one got through and next thing you know I was pregnant).

With first son had bleeding at 6 1/2 weeks, followed by an u/s and everything was fine. No bleeding with 2nd son. 3rd son, noticed a light period at 4-5 weeks and though nothing of it because I thought I was having regular period. Come to find out at 6 1/2 weeksI was pregnant! That "period" I had was awfully light...which may have been some sort of implantation spotting. Not sure.

Anyway, I have been an elite athlete running miles and miles throughout all of my pregnancies and prior to them. Never had a problem conceiving. But, I stopped exercising excessively years ago and currently only walk or run 3-6 miles a few times a week. I am very active, but have cut back dramatically. Maybe I should start running 13 miles a day again...that is what I was doing when I conceived in the past! ;-)

No health issues. I'm 5 6 1/2 and about 120, but recently got up to 125 hoping that would help me conceive, but it actually just makes me feel crappy.

Have not had any formal testing on myself or husband as our fertility appointment is scheduled for June.

I also eat ridiculously well (dandelion greens, garlic, beets, tons of probiotics, lean meats, fresh eggs, homegrown veggies, sprouted broccoli, seeds, etc. I can't possibly name everything I eat). Although, I do drink coffee daily (1-2 cups). I always have and its never been a problem. But the last couple months, I cut back to less than 1 cup. I also drink wine, but have cut back on that as well.

After 20 months, I finally received a strong BFP at 13 DPO on a Clear Blue Easy +/- Test.
8DPO on IC Cheapie BFN
10DPO on IC Cheapie Very Very Faint BFP
11DPO on IC Cheapie Very Faint BFP
12 DPO on IC Cheapie Very Faint BFP
13 DPO on IC Cheapie Very Faint BFP

We made love on CD 10, 11, 12, 13, 15, 16, 18, 19, 20

Didn't test again until today (19 DPO) when I started experiencing some mild cramping and then spotting which turned to heavier bleeding, cramping, passing clots, etc. I used another IC with very diluted urine in the afternoon and the line was VERY VERY faint. I will retest tomorrow with another Clear Blue Easy test, but I'm certain it will be negative. I use a menstrual cup and lost more than one ounce of blood in 5 hours (that is A LOT OF BLOOD).

I am certain of ovulation because I have a Kindara BBT Thermometer and have a confirmed ovulation on CD14 with a triphasic chart.

I have not really had any symptoms, but this is totally normal for me. With all my other 3 pregnancies, I had zero symptoms. I have never had any miscarriages either.

Over the last 20 months I have never even had a slightest BFP. The last two months, I started acupuncture once a week, Chinese Herbs, COQ10, B-Complex, Women's Whole Food Mulit-Vitamin, Zinc, DIM, Vit C, and Magnesium.

I have also done TONS of meditation every single day (guided meditation for conceiving) as well as a little pregnancy yoga.

Oh, and I was (and still am) scheduled for our first fertility appointment on June 15th. My husbands employer covers three rounds of IVF, but I really didn't want to take this route. I guess I should be thankful...

Lastly, my acupuncturist wanted me to continue with some other Chinese Herbs (Dong Quai) and others, but after researching on my own found that there is no research on these and it kind of freaked me out. I opted to not take these...who knows if it would have made a difference.

Anyway, at this point I am having heavy bleeding, low throbbing pain (like I would have during a very heavy period) and passing clots.

My first OB appointment was scheduled for 5/28, but I guess that will no longer be happening.

Oh, and I will try to be happy that I actually "got pregnant" and at least something worked after 20 months. Moving on till next month or fertility treatment, even though at the moment I am over it!

Tomorrow (Mothers Day), my hubby is out of the country for work, but I am going to wake up at 6am and treat myself to a long solo run in the forest, then make my boys breakfast and take them on a 3 mile hike. We live in Santa Cruz, CA and are lucky to have the mountains and the ocean out our doorstep :-)

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Proof of Answered Prayers

Me 42
DH 41
DS 7 weeks 6 days

I've been on this site for a couple of years, reading every single post I could to stay encouraged on my TTC journey. What I will never do again is look for other peoples experiences to be a tell tale sign of my own experience because when I got my BFP it came out of nowhere! Well almost....

DH and I started our TTC journey in April of 2014. After six months of no success we started our fertility treatments. Started with 3 IUI's from October 2014 to February 2015 because our insurance doesn't cover IVF if there aren't any medical diagnosis indicating we couldn't conceive.
We moved on to another doctor and to IVF in March of 2015. We did two FET's with three embryos, that resulted in failures.
We moved on to another doctor in October of 2015 and had one IVF that resulted in a 4th IUI because the doctor missed my ovulation. Then another mini fresh IVF with two embryos that also failed.
In January of 2016 we moved on to our 4th doctor and had our 5th IFV with a tested embryo that also failed. At this point we exhausted all of our IVF insurance and medication coverage and decided not to do another IVF until September of 2016. We opted to do a 5th IUI and timed intercourse in May of 2016 with no real expectation of it working, at all. We did a long protocol from June 21st, triggered on July 1st, DB'd on July 1st, 2nd, & 4th with our IUI on July 3rd.

I was temping all year and temped for this round also just for the hell of it. The morning of 11dpo, on July 16th, a day before AF was due, my temp was still high. I still didn't think anything of it but did an HPT anyway because we were flying out to Vegas on the 19th and I wanted to be certain I can party....BFP!!!! I was so much in shock I thought the test was broken so I ran out the house and went and got a beta done to be sure. The following morning my beta came back at 74! Two days later at 13dpo/IUI it was 251! I had no symptoms other than the high BBT. None at all. All of my BFN's I had every symptom under the sun. One thing that engulfed me for two years was looking for and analyzing symptoms that I've read on sites like this. DON'T EVER DO THAT! It will drive you nuts.

I had no AF symptoms either but I wasn't thinking about that. Usually three days before AF I know its coming but I was looking forward to our Vegas trip so I didn't even notice.

Another thing that annoyed me a bit while obsessing on sites like this was reading about miracle BFP's but there wasn't any follow through. Was the pregnancy successful, were there any issues, was it a chemical.... I knew that I wouldn't post my BFP story until I gave birth so there was a complete story to tell.

We gave birth to our beautiful perfect son this past March 22nd. All of his pre-screening test were normal. He was delivered via emergency c-section and is perfectly healthy, other than having acid reflux;(

Our miracle son from God arrived healthy and we couldn't be more happier.

Thank you for all of your stories that kept me hopeful and I hope this testimony encourages at least one person not to give up hope, and be patient and know your BFP is coming.

Good luck and prayers to all of you still in your TTC journey. Be encouraged that prayer changes things.

37 y/o, BFP, TTC #1, 18 months, no symptoms

I've really enjoyed reading all the BFP stories here and promised that when my time comes that I'll share with the 2ww community in hopes to help others. 18 months later, here it is!

Short background: 37 yrs old, average health (I workout 2-3x/week & eat pretty sensibly), borderline hypothyroid; hubby is 36 yrs old, average health.

We started seeing a fertility specialist in 2015 since my periods have gone completely crazy (super heavy, huge blood clots, frequent periods). Turns out I had a small submucosal fibroid. I went on meds hoping it would shrink the fibroid (it didn't) and eventually went in for surgery in June 2016. A month later, everything was looking good and we continued with our fertility treatments. We discovered hubby's sperm quality had 28% DNA fragmentation (anything above 30% would most likely make it more difficult to conceive). So he started taking vitamins (Fertil Pro as well as a multivitamin). During our fertility monitoring, I've consistently got the trigger shot with every ovulation & was on clomid for 2 months - with no such luck. In January 2017 we tried for our first iui - and once again, no success. Hubby and I decided to switch our fertility clinic since we weren't all that happy with the care we've been receiving at our current clinic. We had an appt for our new dr. in May and decided to take the next 4 months easy and not focus on ttc.... and just like that, it happened naturally!

Symptoms: To be honest, not very many.

The days leading up to when my period was due my boobs were so full, sore and hard! It was really uncomfortable! That lasted about 3 days, then it vanished.

There were only 2 times where I completely knocked out from exhaustion. Didn't think too much of it since I thought they were probably tough work weeks.

Mild cramping on and off week of period due and 2 weeks after. Different from regular period cramps... very mild, almost unnoticeable and very fleeting.

Very light brown spotting a few days before period was due. I wouldn't even call it spotting... it looked more like skid marks lol. It happened for about 4 days or so. I thought it was a sure sign AF was about to show her ugly head but she never came (*confused).

At CD 42 (DPO 24???) - My period still didn't come and I'm never this late. Tested with a cheapo Dollarstore hpt and there it was! I tested the next day with a Clear Blue hpt and it said 3+ weeks. Hubby and I were just dumbfounded! We didn't even BD all that much the past month either!

Thoughts: Its hard to pinpoint exactly what made the difference this time around (I've done the preseed, basal body temperature route, you name it, etc.) but I do think these may have been factors...

-I cut out caffeine completely. I was a 1 cup a day coffee drinker, so not even that big of one. I transitioned from drinking coffee to drinking tea (though I used 2 tea bags to give me the oomph I got from coffee)... then eventually I stopped drinking tea altogether (except for the very few times) and just drank water.

-After over a year of going to fertility treatments and injecting all sorts of hormones and meds into my body... just allowing my body to take a break... and be in its natural state. I really think all that just added stress to my body (add to that the mental/emotional stress from ttc). Just eating healthy and getting enough sleep can really do wonders for your body.

-I did not think about TTC. I know its difficult especially if its something you've been trying and hoping for, for so long. Hubby and I had a long talk about whatever God's plan was for us (to be parents or not) and we finally came to terms with accepting (and embracing) our lives as they are now and realizing how blessed we were in so many ways. Believe me when I say, that in itself was a long journey for me personally.

-Just being happy, relaxed and enjoying life. Make plans, spend time with loved ones, try new things. As much as you want to conceive right this moment, it CAN and WILL happen. Don't lose sight of the many other great things happening in your life. When the time is right, you'll have your sweet little one in your arms. Something to definitely be excited and optimistic for! :) I wish everyone to keep the faith, be happy and enjoy life. I'm sending positive thoughts to all the wonderful mamas to be :)

BFP at 39 baby#2

Hello Ladies!

I have been reading your stories the past 7 months and hoped one day I can add mine. Today is the day:)
I have a six year old son whom I conceived the first try when I was 34. My husband and I thought that we were happy with one child and for years it never crossed our minds that we should have another baby. Then something changed around my son's 5th birthday and all of a sudden we started talking about a second baby. By the end of last summer we agreed that we will go for it.
I had a regular visit to my midwife and she assured me that everything looked good and got the green light to start trying.
I thought it would happen right away.. so much for planning.. In October, the first month when I used OPK tests I've got bfp for two days then it was negative :( and the journey began. I was paying attention to my cm and used OPK tests for the next three months and nothing happened. Then I signed up for Fertility Friend and started taking my bbt in addition to checking my cm and using opk and that gave me a really good idea how my body was actually working. Fast forward another three months we went on vacation and I thought I will not try this time, just have fun whenever I feel like:) Don't get me wrong I was still checking my fertile signs and took my temps every morning but was not bd planning. The day of our trip came and the opk turned +, I did have fertile cm for four days including that day which was cd15. We arrived to the resort and jumped in the hot tub, had a few drinks and got very relaxed.. that night we had fun.. the next morning my bbt jumped and stayed high so I knew I ovulated cd15. And this was it, we had not had sex the previous days and not after 4 days of ovulation. I got my bfp 11 dpo.
In the past 6 months we always bd the few days leading up to ovulation but never on the day of ovulation because we were exhausted by then. So for me O day was key. This was the only month when the opk was only positive for a day, previously it was always positive two days in a row. The first month on fertility friend I ovulated the day after the second positive opk, the second month I ovulated the second positive day and the third month I ovulated the only one day of the positive opk. So I learned that opk is a good indication but it can't tell when you actually ovulate. My cycles are anywhere between 27 and 31 days. These past three months two times I ovulated on cd15 and one time on cd18, my luteal phase was always 11 days. As far as pregnancy symptoms I had none. The only thing that was strange at 8dpo when I was at the grocery store those scented garbage bags were smelling really intense to me, tender breasts and mild cramps like usual before AF. When my temp did not drop at 10 dpo, I suspected that something was up:) So just two months before my 40th birthday it finally happened:) I hope everything goes well and I get to experience this miracle one more time.
Baby dust to all! It will happen, I promise!

Birthday BFP!!

Just like most of the bfp's on here, I frequented this site looking for exciting new BFP stories to hold me over during my tww. It took my husband and I 6 months to conceive. I am 26 and he is 28, we are both active and healthy with healthy BMI's. I got my BFP yesterday... On MY BIRTHDAY!!

Date notes:
Cycle started April 10th
Ovulation (confirmed by clearblue digital ovulation sticks- first month using these!!) April 22nd (got the smiley on the 21st)
We BD on the 17, 21, 22 & 23. (More during the month but that was during fertile window)

What we used to help:
I used wondfo ovulation sticks months prior but never fell pregnant. I used clear blue ovulation sticks this month and it was so easy to just see the smiley and know it's time to BD! I will use them again in the future! We also used preseed once. I've taken prenatal vitamins since we started trying. I also prayed, a lot.

I had so many symptoms every other month... Sore breast, sore nipples, runny nose, nausea- you name it! This month- nothing really!
7dpo I felt a quick lighten bolt zap in my uterus that made me jump. I am guessing that was implantation? Few light cramps later that day and next day- but they were very light. I have also felt a little warmer. I noticed my boobs weren't sore when they usually are every other month so I took a test 9dpo (my bday!) and it came back light positive on a frer!!! Couldn't believe it! Held my pee and took another test around 9pm and it was a little darker. Took another test this morning at 10dpo and even darker pink. Praying this is a healthy sticky baby!

Baby dust to ALL!

BFP with spotting and hardly any symptoms

Hi Everyone,
I can't believe I am posting here! I have been reading this forum for over a year and I hope my experience can help others. So here is a little background first. In 2015 my husband and I decided to start TTC and we got our BFP 14 days later. My HCG was 500 with my first pregnancy. I was blown away it happened so fast. I never really had to experience the TWW. I kinda guess I was pregnant, however, because I had intense symptoms starting at 3 DPO. I even had spotting where I thought I was starting to get AF. We had a beautiful, healthy boy 9 months later.

Fast forward to DS 1st Birthday. We started NTNP but I was tracking my BBT anyways. After 3 months and not getting a BFP I added OPK strips to the equation. I started noticing it looked like I wasn't ovulating every month and the OPK NEVER turned positive. Last month my OB started me on Metformin for high blood sugars and lack of weight loss. I also decided to spend the $60 and buy the Clear Blue Advanced Digital ovulation kit. I tracked starting on CD 9 (I was not going to miss this egg dammit!) I finally got a peak on CD 17 and was so excited! We of course BD regularly, mostly because I can't keep my hands off of DH. Then on CD 18 my BBT stayed flat. I tracked it for the next couple of days and all it did was drop. It didn't show any indication of O. I was devastated and pissed off. I said screw this and stopped charting my cycle. I made a myself a deal and said that I would go see my OB/GYN on Mon (4/10/17) since that's when FF says AF is due and see if I can start Clomid. I ended up spotting Sunday (4/10/17) and figured "good thing I have an appointment, f@#king AF". But it was brown mixed with EWCM. Didn't think much of it and then the next day I had some pink spotting only when I wiped, but figured AF was taking her time showing up. Then it stopped. I'm a POSA so I of course peed on HPT that came with my OPKs and it was a BFN. Went to work on Tuesday with all my supplies fully expecting war to come, and...nothing. I thought what the hell is going on! When i went to the bathroom I had loads of EWCM and then my curiosity was peaked. That night I decided to take another test, but not the piece of crap strip one, but all I had was Clear Blue Digital and heard that those aren't always the most sensitive. What the hell, right? What's one more test in my small fortune spent? At least I will take it and it will come back with "Not Pregnant" and I will wait for AF to come with a vengeance. I took it and went back to making dinner and playing around with the family. I almost forgot I used one so I went back after probably 20 minutes and there is was, my BFP!! I was shocked! I wasn't expecting it at this point because I don't "feel" pregnant. I mean I was nauseous but I thought that was because of the Metformin, and I'm tired but when am I not? Showed DH and he laughed! He was like, "I have super sperm!! Even when you don't ovulate I get you pregnant!" Yeah babe, that's how it works ;) You can pee far and are the alpha. (I'll stroke his ego sometimes) We are beyond thrilled to be adding another member to our family.

Okay, what you have been waiting for:
O day (i'm assuming this day is CD since it was never confirmed by BBT)- Horrible acne outbreak, cramps, and bloated
1 DPO- Tingly nipples
2 DPO- Uterus was achy and felt heavy
3 DPO- Nothing
4 DPO- Nothing
5 DPO- Nothing
6 DPO- Tingly nipples, acne, heavy/full breasts, backache
7 DPO to 12 DPO- Absolutely nothing except on 12 DPO I was emotional and cried because I thought I wasn't pregnant. BFN
13 DPO- EWCM and BFP! Only tired no other symptoms. HCG was 109 and progesterone was 11.9
14 DPO- Nipples finally began to tingle and breast feel like they are getting larger. and that's it. Had a little tinge of spotting mixed with cm but nothing sense. Going to get another Beta HCG drawn today. Hope this one is sticky!

Thanks for reading my long, mostly boring post, but I hope it helps others out there. Baby dust to all! Good luck lovelies!

No symptoms and used pre seed

My background is I had 2 miscarriages and an ectopic last year and hadn't conceived since. We were talking to IVF clinics and I'd quit my job to see if it helped.

1-5 dpo - nothing
5-9 dpo - sore boobs which is normal for me after ovulation
9 dpo - BFP

We used pre seed, had sex every 2 days before ovulation and then an extra time on the day. I was convinced I was out this month as I had no symptoms (but have also given up symptoms spotting as I though I was pregnant every month!)

Crossing our fingers that this one is in the right place and sticks.
Good luck to you all and I hope your baby's come soon!

42 yo hypothyroidism, TTC for 18 months, BFP 20DPO

Hello everyone! So happy to be finally posting here. Ladies out there do not lose hope! I hope my story helps someone out there. Just got my first ever + so still really excited! It's been a long journey and I've had to get my health into check from subfertility to fertile, as standard checks have not revealed anything physically wrong with either of us.
DH and I finally decided to start TTC in Sep 2015. Because of my age (40) I got some bloods done straight away and they came back with subclinical hypothyroidism. Started on Levothyroxine, built up slowly till was on 100mg by Aug 2016. Then I started Spotting pre period. By October 2016 I decided to start acupuncture, and straight away my temps were better in the luteal phase. By Jan 2017 my periods were better yet still nothing so I got in touch with a herbalist and began taking a fertility herbal tonic. And now I'm pregnant! Here's a list of the supplements I've been taking since October 2016 ( DH not as consistent but took first 3 ):
Prenatal vit, coQ enz10, vit D, folic acid, magnesium at night. Fish oil.
Really important that you don't think you're just a number! Books I found useful: Taking Charge of your Fertility, It Starts with the Egg, Period Repair Manual.
my recommendation: if you think you'll go for acupuncture find a fertility expert one. She helped me regulate my temps, stop pre period spotting, control midnight pee antics and regulate period flow. And NO PMS for the last two months! !!
I found inspiration in the following websites :
Molly nichols and Deidre Morris. Both looking at connecting with your feminine wisdom.
I also do a lot of visualisations and mindfulness.
I also tried OPK for 3 months and never got peak fertility including this month. It turns out they're not so accurate for older women.
of course I went through being obsessive with chart apps for the first year until I mentally exhausted myself and then decided to just keep a vague interest in my fertile window. I stopped charting properly some 4 months ago. I think it's a process you have to go through.

Summary of this cycle : my luteal phase is normally 12 days long.
CD17 Ovulation
1-12DPO No noticeable symptoms
13-20DPO Some menstrual style cramping and large and sore boobs. Tested + today. Still no other symptoms. Don’t feel pregnant yet!

I hope this little bean sticks!

Baby dust to all!!!

BFP whilst waiting to start IVF!!!!

I'll keep the background brief but I've read these stories for years hoping that one day I'll get my chance to share!

We have been TTC baby no.2 for 21 months, had an ectopic pregnancy straight away when started TTC and had my right Fallopian removed after it ruptured at 7 weeks.

was told my chances of conceiving were 70% but this was taken with a pinch of salt after month after month of bfns.

Eventually decided we had had enough and got on waiting list for IVF. Excited about this starting we finally 100% gave up on it ever happening naturally.

We only DTD 3 times over the ovulation period. I didn't even really know what cycle day I was on as we were busy and I was utterly convinced IVF was only option. I had cut out caffeine that month, eating healthy but nothing unusual.

I finally realised I should have had my period. At this point I was 3 days late. I just thought here we go body playing mean tricks on me. my husband convinced me to just take a test. First of all I took an opk as no hpts at home. I was slightly freaked when I saw the test line much much darker than the control line...queue rush to chemist for tests!

Husband was in kitchen with my son whilst I went to bathroom. I was saying look don't get your hopes up, we've been here a million times and it's ALWAYS negative. As soon as I had dipped it it flashed up with big dark blue BFP! I looked away thinking No Way, you're wanting this so much you're seeing things (again)!! But no sure enough there it was I was FINALLY pregnant! Queue 3 more tests later and I finally could see it was true. My husband was and is still in utter shock. We were due to start our IVF may so it's the most perfectly timed.

The only thing I truly believed helped me was I really spent the last 6 months working on myself, I took up daily meditation, yoga and regularly took time for myself whether it was a big walk or a massage/facial I just worked on healing me. I had a lot of hurt and fear in me after nearly dying with the ectopic and it took a long time for me to move on from this. I had previously had a MC at 12 weeks prior to my son too. I had just been saying to my husband how happy I had been feeling and that was regardless of the baby number 2 situation or outcome and then bang here it is.

I'm not going to tell you to just relax, that was one of the most annoying things I used to hear. How can you relax when you're trying and you're having problems?!! But I would say try take time for yourself where your focus isn't TTC and it's about you enjoying yourself or getting some space to breath.

No idea of dpo symptoms as I really dismissed it all. I had pulling/lightening bolt feeling right side and queasy spells. Very tired. Bad cold. Lightheaded. Put it all down to being unwell with cold.

Good luck in all your pregnancies and TTC. I'm wishing baby dust for you all. Don't give up and try be happy regardless of what the TTC journey may bring.

Hope this helps someone out there xxxxx

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For those who don't *feel* pregnant!

i told myself as soon as I got a BFP, I'd share, so here I am! My husband and I used an OPK, we did the deed every day of fertile period and used preseed. I also took B6 vitamins, but it was only for a month. Maybe that's what did it? I cut my dosage in half (200mg to 100mg) with doctor's approval after BFP.

7 DPO: no spotting despite the fact I usually do. Short LP. :( I wasn't sure if I it was a sign yet since I took the B6.
8 DPO: still not spotting (not other symptoms)
9 DPO: same as before, except I took a HPT because I couldn't help myself. Got a VERY faint positive and seriously thought I was seeing things. It was with afternoon urine!
10 DPO: started letting very light cramps and a tiny bit of brown discharge. Darker FRER but negative CB digital.
11 DPO: darker! Still light cramps.
12 DPO: cramps continue, a little more brown discharge, positive CB digital.
13 DPO: nipples are tingly. I think left breast has swollen a little. No pain.
15 DPO: blood test came back positive! Doctor said slight cramps and light brown discharge is normal!

Basically, I did not have crazy symptoms! Even with positive tests, I thought is was a chemical and AF was coming. I have not had tender breasts or nausea yet. But, it's been confirmed with good HCG levels and I go back next week to see if it's increased! Good luck to all of you, and remember, you're still in until AF shows. Also, don't disappoint yourself or waste money with digitals too early!

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