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BFP at 9dpo! Rainbow baby!

My husband and I have had a tough 2 years. In May 2015 our international adoption of 18 months fell through. In November 2015- I miscarried our first child. We spent the next 18 months exhausting sources with donors. (My husband is transgender- female to male- so we need to use a sperm donor.) Some donors were unreliable. Other sources (from sperm banks like our last pregnancy) too expensive since we had exhausted all of our financial resources between the last pregnancy and adoption. We finally found a donor who was an amazing fit (a family friend actually) and got our BFP the first month with him!

I’m only a few days out of the whole 2 year nightmare- but I am praying this baby sticks- because for the first time in years I feel true joy and hope again. I don’t think I realized how much of my joy was stolen through this whole journey until I got my most recent BFP.

Here’s my symptoms- with a bit of humor because I truly feel you have to have some levity to survive TTC and the TWW!

1dpo-5dpo:

These days were relatively uneventful. I would alternate every other day. One day I would say to my husband, “I just know it. This is our month. Do you think it is?? Am I being crazy or do you think it could be?” The next day I would adamantly say, “I just know it’s not our month. Why does this keep happening to us? I just don’t get it.”

He really loved these conversations.

My symptoms were my usual post-OV symptoms- which are all probably just from progesterone. This includes: cramping, slightly sore nipples, being able to smell things more (for good and for bad), and an usual one for me- cramps in my thighs. My temps jumped a little higher than usual- which is odd for me.

6dpo:

This is when things got a little weird. Around 3pm I felt myself get very warm and noticed that from about 3pm to about 5pm that day- I had a fever of about 99.6 or so. It went away around 5pm though and I felt fine.

I have done some googling and have found casual info about fevers sometimes associated with fertilized eggs- and that causing a fever (like the body thinks it’s an intruder or something)- but who really knows how scientific that is.

My dog sniffs my crotch super weird on this day and I am super tempted to google, “Dog sniffed crotch 6dpo” on google. Kid. You. Not. I admittedly held back.

7po:

This is the day I started to think I was pregnant. Some of the symptoms reminded me of last pregnancy- and then also I just had that “I think I’m pregnant” feeling.

The cramps were super specific on this day. More intense than usual and like a sharp shooting feeling. I was also getting zaps in the sides of my breasts. Super bloated and boobs feel huge. I kept feeling very hungry but NOTHING sounded good to me. That is kind of a common “my period is coming” symptom for me though.

On this day I cried to both my mom and husband something along these lines: “I really really think I am pregnant this time. I honestly think I am just getting my hopes up though. There is no way we could have been successful our first month with a new donor. No way. We are not that lucky. Good things don’t happen to us. *Crying.* I really do think I am pregnant though! But what if I am not!? What if I am just going to be devastated!?”

I did this my last pregnancy too. I get weepy and crazy before a BFP- so it had me pretty curious.

I took my first test on this day (sadly this is late for me- I usually start at some ridiculous day like 5dpo despite fully knowing the science behind everything). It was negative on an internet cheapie- although I was convinced I saw a second line and my husband and I spent a good 45 minutes photographing the test at various different angles and using all sorts of instagram filters on it- trying to see if we could see a second line in photos. I ended up crying before bed assuming I was probably not pregnant (but secretly thinking I really might be- but not wanting to let myself think that too much).

8dpo:

The bloating stayed and I was still getting pretty insane cramping. I just knew this time I had to be pregnant. The cramping felt too different. I was super frustrated though because I had no way to prove this- and I was fighting with my husband at this point- and paranoid that if I was not pregnant I would have to totally just own my own exaggerated emotions vs. being able to blame hormones. Please be pregnant to save face, I was praying.

I took a FRER this day and when I thought I saw a line again, of course proceeded to pry it apart and hold it up to various light sources (which for the record- I am pretty sure will guarantee you to see a line every single time if you do that).

I could barely sleep this night because I was reading stories on this website and so excited to wake up and take my temperature.

9dpo:

BFP at 12DPO after 2 years of trying...

I have been visiting this web site since few months and It helped me a lot with my two week wait and with all my crazy questions. Finally got my BFP on March 2nd on a dollar tree HPT. Blood test same day and again after a week, both came positive and normal. Having my 7 weeks ultrasound this March 23rd. hoping to hear the heartbeats.

My journey:
I have PCOS and my cycles were really long. Metformin, yoga and PCOS diet (low carbs) helped with my cycles and I lost over 25 pounds since last year. My cycles started getting regular and shorter, between 32 to 37 for last four months which is great for a PCOS patient. I started ovulating on my own and exactly cycle date 17-18. Before I was not sure if I was ovulating since my cycles were very unpredictable. This was my 4th round of clomid 50 mg and got my BFP at 12 DPO.

Things we tried this cycle:
Clomid (day 5-9)
Preseed
soft cups (highly recommend)
Ovasitol
metformin

My symptoms:

Sore and tender breasts
frequent trips to bathroom
strong smell
very light on and of cramps
light spotting

Do not loose hope or stress yourself. God has better plans for us. I thank god every single day now:))

BFP age 38

Hi Ladies

Ive just got my BFP after 5 months of trying after losing a baby late on last year (the baby was fine, i had an infection). It took us a while to conceive the baby we lost so I was worried about now being a year older. I did a lot of research into supplements that improve egg quality and fertility and I thought I would post here incase it helps others. I had my AMH tested recently and it came back low - 4.3 p/mol. This worried me a lot. After that i had my antral follicles counted and this was fine (17). I'm really not convinced on the value of AMH personally after doing a lot of reading about it. I wish i had never bothered having the test. I also have a retroverted uterus which probably makes things a bit harder for us but i've conceived 5 times in total (2 children).

Supplements I took:

For egg quality:
DHEA (do you own research on this). Its supposed to take 3-4 months to work and i conceived after 3 months. I played around the with dose, starting on 25mg for 10 days, then 50 for 10 more days then 75mg. After 8 weeks i dropped back to 25mg as i had my DHEA levels tested (saliva test - £40) and they were the upper end of normal. I didn't want them higher than this. DHEA i supposed to increase antral follicle count, AMH and egg quality. I would definitely consider it if you are over 35 and have trouble conceiving. There is also evidence that DHEA reduces miscarriage by 50-80% which the impact being most dramatic in older ladies. The side effects i had was slightly greasy hair at first but nothing major, little spots but again nothing major, it made my hair go a bit limp but it didn't get thinner or fall out.

Ubiquinol - 300mg per day
Alpha lipoid acid - 600mg
PQQ - 100mg
N-Acetyl-Cystenine - 600mg
DHA

For general fertility:
Pregnacare multi vit
Vitamin D
B6
Vitamin E

I read the book "it starts with the egg" - i would highly recommend this. After reading it i stopped taking L-Argnine and Royal Jelly. Theres no evidence either way on Royal Jelly but there is evidence L Arginine can be harmful to egg quality and implantation.

After 3 months of taking the above i conceived, although i had only just started vitamin E, not sure if that made a difference.

I've had 2 chemical pregnancies (in the past, not recently) so I have waited to write this until i'm sure this is not a chemical. My tests are getting darker and darker and i'm currently 17dpo. I know there are no guarantees but so far its going ok.

Other things i did:
Gave up caffeine and only drank alcohol if i was out - maybe twice a month
drank wheatgrass powder
Started acupuncture in November - this helped me greatly with stress and anxiety after my loss. I would highly recommend trying acupuncture.
drank lemon water all day - helps make the body alkaline and detoxes the liver
soft cups
Ovulation tests
lay on tummy afterwards (supposed to be good for retroverted uterus)
pre-seed

Symptoms

I ovulated a little late CD 17 or 18.

4dpo - mild sore boobs, tired, a little thirsty
6dpo - night sweats - this is normal for me and i thought i was definitely out - its usually a sign AF is coming, mild headache on and off
7dpo mild cramps like period pain
8dpo - much stronger cramps in the evening, just like period pain
9dpo - night sweats again - expect to start AF very soon as i have a short luteal phase since taking DHEA (9 or 10 days)
10 dpo -mild hot flashes - usually a bad sign for me so was sure my period was coming. Some mild heart palpitations
11dpo - convinced my period is coming although its a little late now. I had period paid exactly like when AF comes. I went out and got drunk that night i was so sure i was out.
12 dpo - Couldn't sleep last. Nothing all day then hot flashes in the evening, gassy, a little reflux at the back of throat.
13 dpo - took a test and got a BFP pretty quickly. Then had some brown discharge and thought it was another chemical. Lower back ache, still feel like period is coming
14dpo - pink discharge when wiping - sure this is not going to last. Cramps, backache, slightly queasy in the morning. woke early again
15dpo - darker HGC test. woke early again, still got lower backache, slight queasiness. No discharge/spotting
16dpo - Struggled to sleep last night, aching legs and couldn't drop off. darker HGC test, mild night sweats, sore boobs, mild back ache. tired in the afternoon.

Currently 17dpo and praying this pregnancy is ok.

Hope this helps someone out there. Best of luck to you all.
x

Number 3

Like everybody else, I obsessively stalked this website for the 4 months we tried. Even this cycle, when I was determined not to test until 14 DPO and not to obsess over my symptoms. I even had DH hide my pregnancy tests so I wasn't tempted. Every other cycle this time, my "typical" pregnancy symptoms were much stronger. I had worse breast pain, cramps, spotting, exhaustion, etc. The thing we did differently this month was I bought a Diva cup and 2 out of my 5 fertile days (I use ovulation tests) I had DH deposit his *ahem* specimen into it and laid on my back for an hour. I love DH, but 5 BD days in a row is exhausting. We used preseed only the days we used the cup, I don't tend to have a problem in the CM department. So on to the symptoms:
DPO 1-3: nothing
DPO 4: slight breast pain and creamy CM
DPO 5-6: slight cramping and breast pain, no CM
DPO 7: same cramping/breast pain, add back pain (common symptoms before AF, but seemed a little early)
DPO 8: Started having horrible anxiety, DH thinks I was having panic attacks. Same symptoms as before
DPO 9: More horrible anxiety, less cramping still breast pain, but not as bad as it should have been
DPO 10: Same, but anxiety seemed to stop mid afternoon. (at this point I'm sure I'm out, I had implantation spotting with both other pregnancies and so far absolutely nothing)
DPO 11: A little breast pain and light cramping, but what hit me today was nausea. I'm really prone to motion sickness and that's what it felt like all day. Started getting this weird sour/bitter taste in the back of my mouth. Most people think it tastes like metal, mine tasted like when you've eaten too many sour patch kids and the taste is in your mouth for hours afterwards.
DPO 12: More weird taste, but not much nausea in the morning (thinking I made it all up) but the nausea hit hard at lunch time. Just slight breast twinges and hardly anything in the cramping department. I did check my CP (I only occasionally do this) but it was definitely not as long as it usually is. Still high and medium firm. Convinced by the evening that I was pregnant. DH didn't want to let me test until 14 DPO, like I said I wanted but he gave me a test for the next morning.
DPO 13: BFP :) More nausea, can smell everything, same weird taste.

I have been convinced every other month that I was pregnant. The things different this month was no spotting, less painful breast pain, that weird taste at 11 DPO and the motion sickness. Good luck to all, hope this helped someone!

1st clomid cycle 11 dpo BFP!

Me and the hubby have been together for 9 years this year and have been trying to conceive off and on for about 4 years with no success. We literally tried everything you could think of or read of online... I decided to go see an infertility specialist in January of this year and we did a bunch of testing from blood work to HSG, everything came back normal. My doctor was talking about doing an IUI for my first cycle with them but it wouldn't be until march that we would do that due to the time it would take to do the testing. I asked if I could try clomid this first cycle and it worked! 50 mg days 3-7, I ovulated 4 days after my HSG test which may have helped! I got my positive ovulation test on CD 16, we inserted the swimmers using a softcup CD 14,15 and 16... sounds crazy but after so long of trying sometimes your just tired... which I was lol. Anyways he would go in the cup and I would insert and leave in for about 30 minutes on CD 14,15 however on CD 16 he has a little bit more volume so I decided to put some I. A syringe and slower release it in me then put the remaining that was in the softcup inside of me. I honestly had no real symptoms that were different from every other month, I felt dull pains on 6 dpo that I thought might just be in my head because I was symptom spotting, I was tired but just thought it was from work and eating bad, nipples were sore starting 8dpo but this always happens after o until af. 9 dpo I felt nauseous at night but attributed it to me eating 3 ice creams (whoops!) then 11 dpo I decided to test using target brand blue dye with second day urine at 12pm and got a very faint line which you can see in the picture... I still wasn't convinced so I bought cvs brand digital with now 3rd day urine that I basically pushed out 30 minutes after the 1st test and it came up pregnant! I'm shocked!! Going to blood work tomorrow wish me luck! Good luck ladies!!

NYE BFP after 2 years!

I can't believe I'm actually getting to share my story. My husband and I have been struggling with unexplained fertility for two years. We've watched family and friends achieve pregnancies with ease and often by accident. It's been so hard to be happy for others while secretly dying a little inside every time someone else would give us their news. For those reading this who are going through something similar, I want you to know that there are so many others who are in your shoes. There is hope, even if it often feels like there is none to be had. I was pretty much out of hope until today.

We tried for a 2 full years, with a 2 month break last jan and feb. I had one CP in June 2015, but otherwise no luck whatsoever. After getting some tests done after the 1 year mark, I found I had elevated prolactin levels, and this was making my cycles a bit irregular. I started bromocriptine, and my cycles became like clockwork. We also tried clomid for 4 months, and I had a HSG that came back normal. My doc kept telling me that I'd be pregnant soon, but luck didn't seem to be in our favor.

I work nights and my husband is on days, so we started using soft cups not only after sex but also as a way to inseminate. On days we didnt see each other, my husband would "deposit a sample" (lol) in a cup and wake me up for insemination. I'd leave it in until I went to work. This was our second month trying the soft cups. It's hard not to think they are part of the reason for my bfp.

I decided to skip the clomid this month, and I ovulated early (cd13). I usually ovulate on day 15 or 16, but I noticed I was more aroused than normal, and I was suspicious and took a LH test. Glad I did, bc we would have probably missed our window. After ovulation, which I felt around 9am on cd 13, I had my stereotypical PMS symptoms, so I thought I was out this month again. I usually get the full gambit of symptoms before my period. Sore boobs, lethargy, headaches, mood swings, bloating. You name it. All have been present. The ONLY thing that was different were cramps on 8dpo that woke me up. Maybe it was implantation? Maybe?

Fast forward to NYE, which was 11 dpo. I stopped taking pregnancy tests months ago, bc they brought too much heartbreak. Before I was getting in the shower, I peed on a stick and left it there while I showered. I fully expected to see nothing, which is the norm, and I mostly just wanted a clear conscience to drink at a party. Low and behold there was an extra pink line. I fell to my bathroom floor and cried. And laughed. And laughed while crying.

My husband was out buying champagne for our New Years party. When he got home, I told him he'd be drinking it alone. It took him a second to process it, and kept saying "are you serious?" "Are you joking?!" Haha! Like I could joke about such a thing! He was starting to lose hope too, so he was just as shocked as I was.

When we got to the party, I noticed my friend was suspiciously drinking water. I asked her if she was pregnant and she just smiled. She's 6 weeks and I'm almost at 4. I got to share our news with her, and we got to have a little secret together. Such an awesome surprise!

I'm anxious that this little one holds on after the CP I had last year. Both mentally and physically, this somehow "feels different."

I didn't have implantation bleeding or any symptoms that stand out as definitively "pregnant." I'm still in shock and plan on buying more tests to make this feel more real.

Happy New Year everyone!!! 2016 may have been a beast of a year, but I can't be too mad at it, because it gave me my BFP, even if it was at the last minute.

After Mirena, a miscarriage, D&C and 8 months of prayers

My journey started one year and a half ago. I had my Mirena removed and I had all the crash symptoms. I found myself with up and down cycles (long and then short) with heavy bleeding and then no bleeding at all. I have tried it all!!! Maca root, fertility teas, angus castus, epo, temping, charting, all the apps, ovulation tests, pineapples, paleo diet, jets diet, and the list can go on and on.

This month I was filled with faith and believed that God had a plan and I just needed to wait until he was ready.

The things I did different this month:
1) castor oil packs
2) new vitamins:bryophyllum, Artemis vulgaris, and ovaria comp (all given by a naturopath in Germany)
3. Diva cup and pre-seed
4. Keto diet
5. A whole lot of prayer

So I don't know if any of these things helped me but I finally got my BFP and I feel so blessed after so many months of tests with only the control line. I don't know if it was the Mirena finally working itself out of my system and my fertility returning... But I feel so happy and blessed!!!!

My secret to be pregnant after 10month!!!!

So about me: 27, and really wanted a baby since a long time... but We tried from 2016 february to get pregnant... unsuccessfully.... but today at 12.dpo after 10month ttc I got my BFP!!!!! Im so so happy!! And there is only ONE NEW THING WE MADE IN THIS CYCLE!! INSTEAD SOFT CUPS! I ordered them from ebay(in hungary there is no thing like this... only a menstrual cup like diva or moon cup). And when i ovulated we were soooo tired, that we tried that 3days in a row my love put his "thing" in the soft cup and I put the soft cup with the sperm in to me...:) than i made myself "happy" .... obviously orgasm...:) than put my legs up for 5-10min! And baaammm after 12days i got my bfp!! I put photo of my chart also . So here is my symthomps:

-1 - softcup action
0 - ovulation and softcup action (i used ovulation predictor kits and it was waaay tooo obvious about the ovulation :) ) O-pain
1dpo - softcup action , O-pain, feeling dizzy
2dpo - breasts are bit tender but that is usual for me after Ovulation
3dpo - tired, bloated, twingles in my belly, dizzy, tender breasts
4dpo- tender breasts and nothing much...
5dpo - tender breasts nothing much
6dpo- nothing much
7dpo- craving...bit pain in belly...temp getting higher.....interesting..
8dpo- dizzy, sharp pain in the backside of my left leg..nausea, much creamy cf ..sorry for tmi
9dpo- highest temp ever!! Bfn
10dpo- temp drop..:( O-type pain, depressed, bloated, tender breasts
11dpo- very very very faint bfp, maybe line eyes... but temp still low...but above coverline, twingles in belly
12dpo- temp went back!!!!and baammm BFP with CB Digital 1-2weeks!:) sharp pain in breasts, and muchh twingle in belly.... very happy!!

Here is my chart: http://www.kephost.com/image/vqPh
And just to know we really thought that i cant have baby in a natural way so i got an appoitment to a clinic for this friday... but i just called them to cancel that:))
USE SOFT CUPS AND FERTILITY LUBRICANT!! And have an orgasm after every ejakulation! Yes! It helps!! Really!!!:))

BFP with grapefruit juice and softcups

Background: me 31, OH 32. Low AMH (13.1 a year ago), him low morphology (1%), but everything else fine on SA.

I have 12 day luteal phase, and recently my EWCM seemed to dry up a little bit. Never been pregnant before, but this was only our second month of trying, so despite low AMH and low morphology there was no proven infertility. So who knows what would have happened if we'd just left it to chance...

Anyway, this is what we did:

Temping, charting on kindara, CM monitoring, drank 250ml of pure grapefruit juice from CD10 to CD16 to improve slipperiness of EWCM, used instead softcups after intercourse during fertile days, monitored my follicles through ultrasound (lucky enough to a midwife sonographer), this not necessary by the way ;) it was only for my personal curiosity :)

CD1 to CD5: menses
CD6: spotting
CD7: spotting + sticky CM
CD8: sticky CM, intercourse
CD8,9,10,11: sticky CM
CD12: creamy CM, slippery and lubricated vaginal sensation, follicle not mature yet though (as per ultrasound)
CD13: creamy CM
CD14: EWCM! slippery and lubricated vaginal sensation
CD15: EWCM, slippery, wet and lubricated vaginal sensation, temperature dip. Intercourse, instead softcup inserted straight afterwards and kept in overnight.
CD16: another temp dip, CM somewhat creamy and vaginal sensation only slightly slippery. Intense Ovulation pain in the evening. Ovulation day! Intercourse + instead softcup overnight.
1DPO: temp rise above coverline, CM back to sticky.
2DPO: sticky CM
3DPO: sticky CM
4DPO: sticky CM
5DPO: sticky CM
6DPO: sticky CM
7DPO: sticky CM
8DPO: temp dip waaaay below coverline, sticky CM
9DPO: even deeper temp dip, sticky CM
10DPO: temp back up, creamy CM, slight nausea in the evening for about an hour
11DPO: temp dip below coverline, creamy CM
12DPO: temp dip below coverline, sticky CM. POAS (not FMU) just out of curiosity as these temps don't look promising at all... faint BFP!!! Sore breasts.
13DPO: no menses, temp very high. BFN :(
14DPO: no menses, very, very, veeeery faint BFP.
15DPO:no menses, sore breasts, faint BFP.
16DPO: breasts suuuper sore, and nipples... OMG, so sensitive and sore. Slightly darker BFP.
17DPO: temp dip, tiny amount of spotting, more brownish sticky CM. watery discharge.
18DPO: temp dip, watery discharge.
19DPO: temp back up, nausea in evening.
20DPO: temp dip, breasts not sore anymore.
21DPO: finally a clear and strong BFP :D sore breasts and sensitive nipples.

I think implantation was late-ish, hence it took a while for those BFPs to get darker.

I also started taking maca and vitex from CD15, OH also started maca. I honestly do not think they had anything to do with the BFP as I don't see how they would have had time to work!

I think the winning combo was: intercourse on the day before and the day of ovulation + softcups. I improved the fertile quality of my CM with grapefruit juice, but if your EWCM is wet and fertile you don't need this.

What I learned: BFPs can take a loooooong time to get darker!

Baby dust to you all :D

First BFP after 2yrs ttc, no symptoms and was sure AF was coming!

Hi ladies, I can't believe I am finally able to tell this story! DH (34) and I (32) have been ttc for 2 years and I just got my first BFP!! I really think it was all due to soft cups and Geritol which were the only things we tried differently the last cycle. I temped everyday and about 4 days before AF was due I had a major drop in temp so I started to count us out this cycle. I stopped temping that day and just went about the rest of the week like AF was coming. I had a little bit of brown spotting 2 days before AF was due which was normal for me. Fast forward to 18DPO and still no AF, but I've had 2 previous cycles ( a year apart) where she was over a week late, so I was still counting us out. I had none of the "normal" pregnancy symptoms, no sore boobs, sense of smell was the same, no weird dreams, no extra creamy cm. The spotting stopped but I still didn't think about testing. I already had a pre-conception/fertility appt scheduled with my dr the next day so I figured she would tell me it was just one of those cycles again. Typical appt, pee in a cup, but this time when they did a PT it came back positive!!! Did a HCG test as well and it was positive!! I was in shock!! The next morning, (bc I peed on so many sticks I wanted to finally see that BFP myself) I took a HPT and there it was! PREGNANT!

I hope my story gives someone ttc a little bit of hope to not count yourself out! There were so many times I symptom watched or came on here and tried to compare symptoms and when I finally got my BFP there wasn't one symptom there for me to notice! Everyone is different! Baby dust to all!!

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