It is so surreal typing this out, but want to share with many of you who probably check this site daily for new BFP stories!
My husband (35) and I (33) have a 3 y/o and decided to start trying January 2016 for baby #2. We tried January and were not successful. February we went on a vacation to Jamaica and for the next several months held off on trying until June 2016.
For most cycles I was using OPKs and trying to time intercourse accordingly. Just as background, our son took 3 months of trying, and this time around I had a feeling it would take longer despite probably being in better shape than when I was at 30!
I noticed though when I was using the OPKs I wasn't getting a +, and at this point I was only testing once a day. But it didn't dawn on me to test twice because it worked before? Yet for many months BFN. We took a break October 2016 and tried again in November. Honestly in November I used soy isoflavones thinking that I probably wasn't ovulating even though I have very regular periods and no other signs of not.
November 2016 we conceived, which blew my mind, because I thought for sure I was out (no + OPK). But my intuition was telling me that something was wrong and by 7 weeks I miscarried. I wasn't too heartbroken as I just thought it was too good to be true and I felt uneasy about conceiving using soy.
We continued to try naturally for several more months and since the MC I was now experiencing multiple positive OPKs during my fertile window, which confused me even more! I also was trying different supplements from Vitex, Maca, Vitamin B12. I saw a naturopath who said to go vegan (didn't listen). I also started to be more active and I started to run for a 10 km marathon and walk at work.
Finally I decided to see my family doctor with my husband June 2017 seeking a referral to a fertility clinic. My doctor said he wanted us to try 3 more months and told me not to use OPKs. He said merely calculate your ovulation by counting back 14 days from the start of your next one and BD around those days--before and after. I wasn't too sure of this as I thought my luteal phase was around 12 days. I left even more confused.
I took his advice. My LMP was June 15th and my fertile window was between June 16 to the 22. We BDed:
June 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, and 20--I decided to track little and not use OPKs.
What I did notice though was on CD 12 I had EWCM, +sex drive, constipation, and some bloating--perhaps this was ovulation day, or CD13??
Immediately after I assumed I had ovulated, my pessimism kicked in--like every month--and I just knew we hadn't conceived. I remained doubtful and wasn't really tracking any symptoms.
The few small things I noticed that I thought could I be pregnant were 1) oily skin + breakout 2) car sickness and 3) constipation.
The morning of CD 24 (DPO??) I took a cheap wondfo pregnancy test and waited for maybe 1 min. I immediately put it back in the wrapper and in the garbage. I knew it was negative so why bother is what I told myself? I was expecting my period CD 25 based on more recent cycles and that morning I didn't have any PMS symptoms. After taking a shower I immediately went to the garbage and retrieved the previous days' cheap test and there were TWO LINES! I told my husband who said to take another test. So I took blue dye one which gave a faint positive.
I took a wondfo the next day and it was darker and one today and it was darker than the previous day.
I am just blown away how not relying on OPK was actually the key for us. But things that maybe helped were...
1. increasing physical activity
2. taking prenatal + Maca (I took a capsule of Maca until ovulation)
3. BDing when in the mood and frequently
4. I used softcups for 2 of the days we BDed
I do think for me, using OPKs were increasing my anxiety levels and also my husbands. Inadvertently I was placing pressure on him when I thought I was positive or soon to be positive. I just hope it sticks this little one because he or she is very much wanted and loved already.