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Am I Seriously Pregnant? Do You See a Faint Line?

I am 40 years old and I think I got a BFP today. I should be around 10-12dpo. Please let me know if you see a line or am I crazy? Thanks!
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Donor Egg Success 1st IVF at 47

After a bitter divorce, ugly custody battles, I had gotten re-married to a man with whom I share a very deep connection. We've been together for 9 years, married for 6 years. I got a tubal reversal 4 years ago. We TTCed naturally for many years and tried chlomid but never had the money for IVF. We had a ton of stress too. By the time the recent recession ended and I was ready to start thinking about IVF and even started medical testing but then, I got in a life changing car accident and was out if commission mentally and physically for several months and it took me 2 years to fully recover physically. Then I changed careers and my finances changed. Then just as I had the money together I started feeling sick and found out I had a tumor and had to have a surgery and got that removed. Then I finally felt well enough to get pregnant but much time had past and I turned 47. I had pretty much given up. For health reasons we had quit drinking any alcohol and we started to eat pretty healthy mostly. Our relationship had suffered a lot trying to get pregnant and with financial difficulties. Also I'm a sexual abuse survivor coming from a background of trauma and was in counseling but had a lot of stuff come up for me in the last years. We started marriage counseling a year ago which helped a lot, but still no pregnancy. As soon as we had the money for IVF finally and our marriage was on a healthy track we decided to go to Europe for IVF but originally planned to try first twice with my own eggs then donor only if we failed twice. All my physical stuff was A OK - healthy uterus, etc. we decided to go to Prague Fertility Centre and they were super nice, super professional and a brand new and very clean facility. I had a local RE work me up for all the testing prior but when they found out I was going to Europe they weren't very helpful so we couldn't get the medication we needed and I had to go to Prague early. Only a week before we left we changed course and decided to go with donor eggs. We paid for 2 donor egg cycles and it was only $6,000.00 with guarantee of 2 fresh and 2 frozen for a second time if needed or wanted. We went to Prague and it was the most romantic place I've ever been to and I've been to Europe several times. The donor decision was made at the last minute because I couldn't bare the idea of failure knowing I'm running out of time and knowing I needed to stay focused on the goal of giving my husband a child. I came home one day only a week before leaving and am told go it was the right thing to do. All I knew was that it was the right thing to do- at a gut level, I just knew. From the moment we made that decision we never turned back but I had spent the next weeks in Prague looking around at all the people in Prague wondering what my child would look like. Would it look like one of these people? It was a weird paranoid feeling I kept having. I got really freaked out about it for a whole because I hadn't had any time to reconcile my feelings. So I went online and read other people's stories. Some good, some bad. It's an anonymous donor program in Prague and I was suddenly faced with trying to figure out how transparent I wanted to be with family members and with the child (ren) I told only my Mother who had reacted in an unexpected way and sent my husband a letter about how we shouldn't keep any secrets. It hurt me deeply that she didn't tell me she was sending the letter to him because I had confided in only her and it was unlike her to betray my trust. I felt devastated, confused and alone. Eventually I recovered and confronted her and we had a good long talk about it. It was cathartic because it gave me a chance to sort out my feelings. I loved the 2 embies from the moment they were made and I love them still. It's an indescribable feeling after hundreds of pregnancy tests to finally get a BFP. We are 12 dp3day fresh transfer and due to medications I've had very few symptoms I can really point to. I took my first home test on 7dp transfer and got bfn. Then yesterday I took 3 Walgreens brand tests and got 3BFP's but they were blue dye so I didn't trust it. I went to pharmacist and explained that the lines were super faint. She said try a digital. So I tested 4 more times with 2 digital and 2 regular and got all BFN. Then, today since the tests i had taken were all blue dye tests I thought they could be wrong and decided to try the pink ones.

Happy Birthday!

Last year I was TTC at 39+ - my husband and I had been working apart, so we got a late start. We had been trying for five months, and I visited a reproductive specialist for the full workup (on my husband too, since he is a testicular cancer survivor and had a testicle removed). We had no health problems, but both very stressful jobs. I used OPK and temping to time things right, and we had only one opportunity to try that month, the day after the positive ovulation test (after both of us staying up half the night working - I hate deadlines!). I thought that month was a loss, and just waited the few weeks for the doctor's report on the fertility tests. Almost a week after my missed period, and few days before the doctor's visit, I got my BFP! So, I was sitting in the doctor's office with him telling me my hormone levels were low and things might be difficult, etc., and I told him I was pregnant. He didn't quite believe me, but after a BFP from the test in the doctor's office, I was sent home with congratulations from everyone there. It was just a week before I turned 40, so I definitely had something to celebrate! My daughter was born happy, healthy, and active, and we love her immensely. PS I thought I would also mention that I spotted every day from about week five (the day of my BFP, in fact) to week ten. All of the other tests were fine, but I was on edge for the whole month thinking that a MC might occur at any time. That (thankfully!) ended, and the rest of my pregnancy went great.

BFP at 41 - Spotting - Secondary Infertility

My story is primarily for those who are having problems conceiving again which is not often specifically dealt with on websites such as these. I had my daughter at the age of 38 after being diagnosed with unexplained infertility - it took 13 months to conceive. I am a chronic spotter anything from about 5 days before my period starts when I am trying to conceive. The only time I didn't spot was when I wasn't trying to conceive or the month I got pregnant. I thought that what made it happen last time around was Chinese herbal medicine and acupuncture which I had started in month 12 of trying to conceive. As a result, this time around (at age 39.5) I thought I would start the Chinese therapy sooner, after trying naturally for about 6 months (with temping etc). I completed about a year of acupuncture and herbs at great cost but to no avail. We had all the tests and again were told that there was nothing wrong with us both but my age (now nearly 41) was clearly a big factor this time around. We then investigated the possibility of help but became frustrated by the view of the specialists that the only option was IVF which seemed to have not much more of a chance of success than IUI and was more invasive and costly. During this process I was tested for egg reserve and was told that I had a very low level of AMH for my age. Despite this I was advised that they were willing to go ahead with IVF anyway! We had already decided that we would not go down such an invasive route and were only really interested in IUI but given this result thought we would just leave any question of intervention. It has been a really hard process the second time around - there is very little out there in terms of support for secondary infertility and especially if you are older. All of my NCT group conceived easily and have had their second child during this time which I found very difficult. People just didn't consider how awful it was not being able to have another child or had little sympathy i.e. I had one child what was I complaining about? I went through a period of real sadness about my inability to give my child a sibling and I guess a lot of anger with my body - why was it so hard for me to get pregnant? In the end, I had some counseling to help me come to terms with the fact that I was unlikely to conceive again and, more importantly, to reduce my guilt at not being able to provide a sibling for our daughter. We didn't give up completely at that point but I did give up noting every symptom on fertility friend, reducing how often I read this web page over the two week wait and stopped taking the prenatal vitamins. I have to say that taking my temp every morning for the first six months of TTC just made it worse and when I stopped doing that and engaged in the Chinese therapy it felt even better. Then when I stopped recording the symptoms at the end of the year of Chinese therapy I felt less stressed again. Basically, constantly monitoring my fertility increased my anxiety and I think reduced my ability to conceive. I know this sounds like that cliche of just relax or 'give up and it will happen' (which I hated) but I think that it is, unfortunately, true. The only problem is that I never knew how to do it - how could I 'give up' as a strategy when each passing month reduced my chances of success so greatly? In the end I just naturally got to that place where I was no longer sure that having another baby was the priority. I had started to pray/accept that this was His plan for me, think about giving away my daughters clothes, selling our buggy and putting my child into private school on the basis that if we only had one we could afford it. I have also had the most stressful month at work.

40 With BFP After MMC

I had my first 4 children (8 pregnancies) between 2000 and 2005. MC, Girl, mc & d&c, ectopic (lost left tube), girl, mc & D&C, boy, boy. Fast forward to 2013 after divorce and new marriage, here I am at 40 planning for another baby. We just thought we'll hope for the best and see what happens. Pretty much fell pregnant straight away but ended up miscarrying naturally at 8 weeks after ultrasounds confirming no fatal pole. I started charting and taking vitex, b6, vitamin D, CQ10, and a pregnancy multivitamin. Then I had two anovulatory cycles and two ovulatory cycles. This 5th cycle however was different. I included Tribulus from CD4 to CD13. My chart was different straight away, steady temps in the follicular phase, and slow climb on the luteal phase then huge spike and two dips, and is now climbing steady. 1 DPO - Temp only went just above coverline - feels like AF is coming already. 2 DPO - Temp dipped slightly - even closer to coverline - cramps are more noticeable - creamy CM. 3 DPO - Huge temp jump - cramps continue - creamy CM. 4 DPO - Temp still high - constant cramping - so tired - cream CM. 5 DPO - Temp is heading down - constant cramping - bloated and tired - let the POAS begin BFN. 6 DPO - Temp is back down near coverline - cramping, feeling better - BFN. 7 DPO - Temp tiny bit up - cramping - BFN - getting breakouts - creamy CM. 8 DPO - Temp back down - CRAZY dream last night. I was swimming and when I had a shower, I looked down and I'd 'given birth' to a watermelon sized amount of creamy CM. When I woke up I knew this cycle was different. BFN in the morning, but later that night, I POAS and came back about 20 minutes later - I know, not in the time frame, but there was the faintest of pink lines - not like the grey evaporation lines I'd been getting. 9 DPO - Temp gradually climbing again - BFP. I POAS about 3 times a day and it's getting darker throughout the day. 10DPO - Temp is gradually zigzagging up - BFP pink lines. I also got a digital PREGNANT 1-2 WEEKS on a Clearblue. 11DPO - BFP - test line is almost same colour as control line. 12DPO - BFP - test line is almost same colour as control line. I'm off to the doctor tomorrow to arrange HCG blood tests and Progesterone levels - but I know this one is a keeper. I wish you all the very best in your journeys for little babies.

FET IVF BFP - Over 40

My husband and I tried for nearly 5 years to conceive (assisted and unassisted) but were left with a diagnosis of "unexplained infertility" and a lot of sadness. Hitting my 40's didn't make things any better! When our natural IVF was converted to an IUI in 2010 (only 2 eggs produced), we were devastated - took a break until 2011 - and then turned to egg donation. In late 2011 we did a fresh transfer of 2 5d embryos - bfn. Again, devastation! We had 8 frozen 5d embryos (top grade, chosen from 15 total) and had 2 transferred in late Feb/12. BFP!! FIRST EVER POSITIVE PG TEST!!!! We were ecstatic! Our DS was born 3 weeks early via c-section Oct 19/12. In September we decided it was time for #2 (not getting any younger here) and began our second FET cycle - oh the shots, and all the lovely swingy hormones started again (honestly not sure how my husband survives it) and on Oct 3/13 we had 2 more snowbabes transferred (both were hatching, good sign)....of course I started POAS literally 2 days afterwards and got bfn's until 4dp5dt when I got a super-faint pink squinter that evening. I was so eager to confirm it the next day with FMU that I barely slept (and hubby had no idea)....lo and behold that beautiful double pink line, though faint, was absolutely undeniable on 5dp5dt. Lines are getting darker every day - beta #1 is in 4 days and #2 is in 6. Praying for another sticky bean!!!
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BFP at 40 After 2 Years of Trying :-)

After 2 long years and many a disappointment we finally got our BFP last week. We just cannot believe how lucky we are and hope that everything goes smoothly from here on. We were at the stage where we got a referral from our GP for possible IVF treatment but glad we conceived naturally. Never give up hope girlies :-) 5 weeks 2 days and all looking good apart from very bad bloating so no hiding the fact we're going to have a little miracle in May, 2014.
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2+yrs TTC#1, Almost 40, DH 41, No AMH, Second Medicated IUI

We have been trying for over 2 ½ years and just got a BFP on a second medicated IUI with no AMH, overweight, and three months before turning 40! I was 37 when we started trying. A little over a year later with no BFP, we started fertility testing with just the regular gyne. All my labs – FSH, progesterone, etc came back normal. My HSG was normal. My husband had pretty good results, but also had a varicocele so we thought that was it, so he went ahead with the repair surgery. Three months later, still no BFP, they redid his S/A and it was excellent, so that’s when we moved on to a fertility specialist. The only test my gyne didn’t perform was AMH. Mine wasn’t only low, it was nonexistent – less than 0.16. We were crushed. The doctor said being my age with beyond-low AMH, I could try everything under the sun (which I did - herbs, supplements, relaxation, acupuncture, medical intervention, etc etc) and it would still only give me a 5 or 10% chance each month at most. He agreed to let us try a medicated IUI – because if I didn’t respond to that, there would be no point in trying an IVF because I wouldn’t produce enough follicles. We used Follistim 225 and HCG trigger shot – produced 4 or 5 follicles but no BFP. Had to take a month off to let two cysts heal. Tried again, same dosage – only produced 1 or 2 follicles this time – devastated. We decided we were done. Went in for the blood test two weeks later, expecting this to be the end, and my HCG was 87 (well above 25!) - BFP. That night I went out and bought an HPT just so I could see a happy pee stick for once. Three days later, they repeated the test – they wanted it over 200 and it was 474 – definitely, definitely pregnant. I think my doctor was shocked as he told me “miracles never cease”. The next week I went in for them to confirm the gestational sac – all is looking good, knock on wood. If the next appointment is still good, they will release me back to my regular gyne. I am now at 6 weeks. I only had 2 symptoms during the TWW. Immensely sore breasts, but I had that with the first IUI with a negative, so I ignored it. Also, had several episodes of feeling intensely warm (I’m usually on the cold side) but again, just never believed it was going to happen, so I ignored that too. I don’t know what the future of this pregnancy holds, I can tell my doctor is holding his breath a little, but I feel very very blessed right now with this miracle and I am enjoying every single uncomfortable symptom I’m feeling.

BFP at 41, Second IUI and Low AMH & High FSH

Hi my story is still a work in progress 8/31/2013. I received confirmation from the doctor this morning BFP however I am really scared to get excited. The nurse said my hgc levels are lower than they like to see. Can mean one of two thing simply a late implant or or sadly not viable. I go back in two days (9/2/2013) to test again. I was prescribed chlomid 100 for day 3-7 but I misread the start of my period because on day 2 of the chloride my real period showed up. I was too scared to tell the dr. In case they were going to tell me I was out this month so I just rolled with it and showed up for my day 9 u/s which was actually only day 7. I came clean right before the u/s and the dr said they can still work with early, if I had erred on the late side nothing they could do. I had three follicles Two on the left at 10 & 12.5 and one on the right at 10.5. I was told to come back on the true day 9. (side bar if I had just called and told them what happened they prolly would have just told me to come in on the real day 9 and I could of saved myself $450 for the u/s and blood work). I went back on the real day 9 and only had two follicles on the left a 19 (and a 10.5 but they said that was probably not viable) and on the right an 18. They gave me the trigger at 8am and iui was scheduled for the next day at 11am. Cd 9: trigger 8am Cd 10: iui at 11am My doctor said to start counting from the day of iui and to count that day as day 1 1 dp iui: day of iui 2 dp iui: nothing 3 dp iui: woke up at 3am to shooting pains on both overies kind of like little shocks. They didn't last long and I went back to sleep 4-5 dp iui: nothing 6 dp iui: some intermittent pangs on my left side kind of felt like ovulation but of course it was too late for that. 7-8 dp iui: nothing 9 dp iui: felt like menstrual cramps thought for sure my period was coming. 10 dp iui: period-like cramps continued 11-14 dp iui: boobs a little sore but only if I really pushed on them so didn't put too much stock in that. Possibly felt a little nautilus but I can't be sure I was stress eating junk food so it just could have been that. 15 dp iui: took a hpt test and had the slightest of faint lines but it was so faint I kind of didn't believe it. 16 dp iui: doctor confirmed POSITIVE but that my hog was low and need to test again in two days

BFP on 3rd IUI After HSG and Few Symptoms :)

I can hardly believe it and I am still in shock. I was not planning to test b/c it turns me into a complete wreck. It is 14dpo and CD 29 as I O'ed on day 15 this month. I am a single mom by choice and used donor sperm and only had 10 million swimmers. I also had 2 follicles. I just recently turned 40 as well. It is always hard to tell what are pregnancy symptoms and what are the symptoms of the Entrace (estrogen) and Crinone (progesterone) supports that I am on. I also recently had an HSG and doc says that lots of times women get pregnant right after that. My symptoms were almost nil this month. I swear I was out except I had mildly sore boobs at 7dpo for a few days. I gagged when I smelled my prenatals a few times (fish oil). I had really bad "mentral cramps" on CD 28 and thought for sure I was out. Felt JUST like AF was coming and my boobs were only mildly sore so it is EXACTLY how AF feels when she is coming to town. Then today in CD 29 I felt a tugging feeling in my uterus. Not much to report so....if you have no signs don't fret. My first pregnancy I had few signs except really, really sore boobs and cramping. Sorry I cannot remember the exact days of my symptoms. I just went back to school as a teacher and I had no time for acupuncture, yoga or any of my usual relaxation techniques that one would use to get pregnant. I was crazy busy getting back to work and uber stressed. I guess it worked in my favor. Woot, woot!!!! Got my BFP on a dollar store test!!