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If you’re anything like me, you’re reading everything you can get your hands on when it comes to trying to get pregnant. Thank goodness for the Internet – I don’t know how anyone got pregnant before the advent of personal computing….

We have a place here on TWW for ladies to tell their BFP stories, as well as a spot for submitting their symptoms to determine if they might be pregnant. We have a wonderful TTC community where you can get valuable support and ask questions. But until now, we didn’t have a spot for the detailed monologue of your trying to conceive experience.

Introducing the Two Week Wait Trying-to-Conceive Blog. This is where you can create your very own blog of your TTC experience—every detail, blow by blow. Note that you’ll need to create an account with us first in order to create your blog. It’s free, of course. That’s how we roll here at TWW.  *there is a 24 hour waiting period on new accounts before you'll be able to start posting to your new blog.  In the meantime, have a look around and get to know the site!

Happy blogging!

My earliest pregnancy symptoms before BFP

I WANTED TO SHARE WHAT I HAVE EXPERIENCED AS I KNOW WHEN I WAS TTC I WAS HUNTING HIGH AND LOW FOR SIGNS I WAS PREGNANT! Being in that mid zone of wondering wheither youre pregnant or not can be so exciting and nerve wrecking at the same time, but no one can prepare you for that moment you see two lines appear, your whole world flips with excitement and fear and joy. No matter how sure or unsure of the symptoms you were. I thought i would share my earliest symptoms with you incase you too are in that 'am i, arent i' stage and would like to compare! THE VERY FIRST SYMPTOM...COLD AND FLU-LIKE SYMPTOMS At 7 DPO, i woke up with a horrible stuffy nose, very sore head, aching throat and was very feverish. My body was aching all over and i was ready to quit life for the day. Usually when a cold hits me, i get a very sore throat a day or two before the other symptoms, like a warning. However, this came all at once. I was sweating and my body was aching all over. These symptoms disappeared within a day only to reappear again at 10 DPO. Hooray pregnancy! LOW MOOD/WEEPINESS My cold symptoms had now disappeared! But at 8 and 9 DPO i was suffering with a really, REALLY low mood. It got worse before it got better, but i couldn't stop crying and had a general hatred toward life in these two days! Nothing could shake this depressive mood i felt and i knew it was very unusual for me. Around 10 DPO as said above, my cold symptoms came back which...continue reading Good luck everyone TTC x

Trying to conceive

Good Day Everyone I would like to share my story with you.We have been married for 12 years and still no babies.We have been trying a lot of things with several doctors and nothing happen.In July 2016, I decided to change doctor, we went to see a doctor that diagnose me with PCOS and he started putting me on Glucophage XR 1000mg. As I was having irregular cycle, he put me on med to help regularise the cycle.We have been trying with Serophene and Clomid but nothing, until August 2017, when i was put on Gonal F and we have several IUI, I felt pregnant for the first time, but it lasted only for 7 weeks and it was lost. I have been trying again and January 2018, pregnant again and same for 7 weeks and then it is gone.I decided to change Doc once again. The one I am seeing now, immediately found out that I have a thyroid problem that needed treatment immediately.So we have paused in trying from Feb to May, and after AF in May, I said to the Doc that i want to try again. So I was put on Clomid from day 2-6,then I waited for my appointment with Doc, which was scheduled on the 01st June 2018, there was one Follicle of 21mm and many small follicles all around-She started putting me on Gonal F, from Friday 1st June to Thursday 7 June,When i went back to check, the main Follicles has reached 26mm and she gave me Ovitrelle and ask me to come for IUI on the next day Friday evening.So now I am 11 Days Post IUI.I have been getting lot of cramping on the right side and my breasts are very tender.I am really afraid of what will happen and don't know if i want to test.

Light cramping

Im 7 days post ovulation acvording to CHERRY app. Feeling subtle cramp pain again, not as bad/the same as the tenth when i inferred i was definitely sperm meets egg ovulating or whatever. Been having the back pain low in my back too and contraction type pain real bad like i did when lactose intolerant milk and cheese when preg with daughter in 2017. Anyway, of course dyin to test i should just chill, Supposed to start period the 24th acvording to app so is this 612 days before period that could benimplantation cramps!? I mean, if nto ill start bleeding tonight/tomorow. So whatevs right!? Killing time

Trying To Be Hopeful!

Hello, Today I've learned our 3rd IVF (in vitro fertilization) transfer has failed. The other two were chemical pregnancies (I was carrying). This one was a BFN. It's probably better that way, but still hard. My wife and I have been trying for 3 1/2 years. Besides the transfers, we've also done undergone 9 IUI's between us. That resulted in two miscarriages after around 9 weeks, for her. My wife, Danni, is 32 and I am 33 years old. My wife has gone through every test you can imagine. And everything seems to come back normal, which is odd because the miscarried embryos also came back normal. I guess that's unexplained infertility in a nutshell. We only have 2 more frozen embryos. One is normal but another came back as inconclusive, so it's a "wild card." They didn't have enough to test. We're deciding whether to take a month off, or keep going. It's physically and emotionally exhausting (plus financially, but trying not to think about that). And it's all kept secret, because it's too painful to keep telling people it didn't work. So no one really knew about this- except my mom and dad. We're also trying to figure out whether to put the last two in together, or to separate them. Does anyone have any advice on "wild card" embryos? Or doing two at once? Part of me is worried the "wild card" might affect the healthy one negatively. Can that happen? It's really our last ditch effort- before we either shell out more money for sperm and IUIs... or adopt. You would think having two uteruses we would have gotten somewhere by now. But I guess life doesn't work like that. It's so frustrating and disheartening. And we're at the age where babies are all over Facebook and it seems so easy for other people- even other lesbians who do IVF (in vitro fertilization) (I know two who have two kids already). It's hard and would love to hear any advice. Thank you so much!! Allison and Danni

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9 days late, spotting, negative test

Hi all

I am new to this forum and really need some advice. Please be aware TMI and slightly long story.

So i have been trying to conceive my second child for over a year. I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancxy back in Feb 2017. I have never missed a period other than when i was preg. my cycles are an average 27 days with the exception of being late by a max of 2 days. now this is my dilemma. I should have started latest on Thursday 17th May. I have included dates with whats been happening ever since

05/18 - light streaks of blood mixed with cm lasted 4 hours then nothing and period like pains

05/19 - light back pain with side twinges and spotted once in the morning

05/20- took a hpt came back negative, no spotting only slight twinges of pain on my sides and back

05/21- took another hpt came back negative, towards the afternoon had an actual pinkish redish bleed only when i wiped so i thought my period is coming on but no period pains just mild aches but then nothing for the rest of the day not even spotting

05/22- no spotting very nauseous 

05/23- bright streaks of blood only when i wiped once then nothing again for the rest of the day.

05/24- no pain, no symptoms and no spotting. Took a clear blue early detection and still negative. not even a slight faint line

I am now officially 9 days late.Negative pregnancy tests. On and off spotting.i have never had this before. Please please someone, if you can advise on what your thoughts towards this wpould be and if you might have experienced this. please let me know.



Surrougacy suggestion

Hey everyone, Hope you are all fine. I listen very positive news about this forum. I must say that this is very
Positive forum. Chagres in others life. But I face cancer in my life. Due to this disease, I can not conceive in my life. After marriage, I want to conceive.But my doctor told me that this is not better for my life. If in any case, I can conceive. It's not good for my health and also for my baby.,s health. I want to enjoy, y life. Do I do not want to lose any type of hope, There I listen to surrogacy and IVE? I want that you give suggestion which option I choose

2 days late still bfn

I finally decided to quit watching from a distance like a peeping tom! I've been trying for almost a year with no luck every single month I think "this is it!!!!"  And i stalk all the pregnantcy boards (without having the courage to post) Then that bfn still stares me down.. i pray and i pray but i guess it just hasn't been best for me yet.. im hoping im meant to share my story and maybe itll give me the baby dust i need for this month.  Im so desperate for this.. it's all i want. I went on bc for a month in april hoping it would restart my body.. And bd almost every day for the 3rd week (when I should have ovulated) but I did not do any opk..  I felt extremely sharp pains on my right ovary on the 8th of May so I assume that's when I ovulated.. I've been having the worst mood swings ever since (snapped a a woman at work just because her voice made me angry ;-(   )and my right nipple hurts so bad I don't even want my clothes to touch it ,I'm very gassy and tired so I assumed like every Month that this is it !!! But I'm a frequent tester so I've been taking test after test and even now the morning of 3 days after period take a dollar tree test and BFN !!! I really don't want to lose hope... but I feel myself crushed every time I see a bfn.

-April 21st (stopped bc).. was already spotting from missing a few days toward end of cycle

-april 28th (stopped bleeding)

-may 8th (sharp pain on right ovary after bd) 

-may 9th (one nipple excruciating as well as the emotional roller coaster of mood swings so I'm sure I ovulated) 

-may 10th (a few cramps) one more time to lock it in

May 11th (sooooooooo tired.. taking naps) 

May 12 - 20th (nothing has went away.. keep thinking im getting cramps but just constant gas) 

May 21st (the dreaded witch is expected) but a no show 

May 22nd (decided to buy 5 dollar tree test so I can test for the next 5)

May 23rd (2 full days late,  still bfn) 

... praying over the next 2 days that I'll get my bfp

IVF success and journey

I was on the fence but posting but if it even helps 1 person it will have been worth my time and so I decided to write my story here.  There is so much secrecy and shame to this journey, which only makes a difficult path even more difficult. I am lucky to have had close friends and family to lean on throughout this process not to mention a loving and supportive husband. If you’re struggling with loss or infertility, my best advice is to try to find people to confide in and not travel this road alone. 


Back in July, at 18 weeks, we lost our first pregnancy. The sadness we experienced during the weeks that followed went so very deep. In summary, even a rainy day was enough to put me over the edge not to mention the countless images you see between social media, strollers on the street, family life on television, etc. It was the most challenging time in my life and it was constantly in my face.


By September I was physically healed and cleared to start TTC again but my cycles hadn’t resumed. We turned to the help of an RE who had us try chlomid, letrezole, and letrezole + IUI. Each month I ovulated, each month I was 100% convinced I was pregnant (CM, sore boobs, vivid dreams, etc) and each month I got a negative pregnancy test. I guess it really is true that symptom spotting is a waste of time... thanks progesterone! 


Test after test came back with no explanation.  How could this be happening? The first time around, when we were just thinking about starting a family, I got pregnant the first month I got my period after going off birth control and now, when i wanted this more than ANYTHING, it wasn’t happening. With much hesitation, we turned to IVF, mainly to take advantage of PGS to increase our chances. It was just too hard at this point to accept a 20% chance per cycle and implanting a PGS tested embryo at our clinic had a 60% chance or so of pregnancy. The scariest part of TTC for me anyways was the endless abyss. Would this be over in a few months? A year? What if I never got pregnant again?!


I had no idea what to expect. I pause here to say I was truly blessed to be living in NY with and unbelievable doctor and staff (I went to RMA of NY). They made the process as absolutely painless as possible. They took the time to explain each step, carefully monitored my body so I knew I was safe, and were so compassionate and supportive at both my retrieval and transfer.


For me, the scariest parts and the parts I was least prepared for were the waiting times.  The day the huge box of medications arrived I was petrified. Am I really going to be able to do this? I need ALL these meds? Did I make the right choice? What if i screw it up? Then the waiting from when we did the retrieval and successfully got 17 eggs until we got the count that made it to day 5 (we ended up with 5 blastocysts) and then the waiting time for the PGS results (2 healthy males and 1 healthy female). Lastly, the waiting time for the pregnancy test. At each step of the way I had fully prepared for the worst. After so much disappointment, you sort of can’t even imagine anything but more bad news, right?


I finally got a positive result and am now 7 weeks pregnant with all positive results along the way. Hopefully, smooth sailing from here! 


I don’t know if any of this made a difference but here were some things I did:


1 - at the instruction of my clinic, I made no changes to my diet. You’ll find a lot of sites talking about restricting gluten and dairy but I was told that making severe changes would put additional stress on your body. Note: I had tried, within reason, to limit alcohol and caffeine, only eat animal products from responsible sources, and avoid manipulated or processed foods (such as low-fat dairy, “skinny” foods, frozen foods etc) throughout this process.  


2 - I basically cut out any intense exercise and tried to engage in more natural exercise such as walking, taking the stairs, etc. 


3 - acupuncture. I’m still on the fence if this actually did anything for my body, but there is no question that during an insanely stressful time, this offers a wonderful stress release. I generally went once a week. Twice a week for the 10 days I was on stims, and made sure to go the day of my transfer. This took my mind from 100 to 0. I slept like a baby that night. I went to YinOva in NYC. 


4 - therapy. I am lucky to have great health insurance that offers covered mental health but having a professional you can confide in and say all your crazy thoughts and fears to is extremely helpful. Given how difficult this can be discuss with friends, it helps take the burden off of your partner to be a therapist, too. Not that my husband wasn’t willing to help but I’m sure many of you can appreciate how old it can get to have a single topic of conversation at home. I found with therapy I was able to make room in my life for other things again. 


5 - distraction. While I appreciate the precaution they take, for my personality it is definitely a challenge to have all of these additional milestones (frequent monitoring, multiple beta tests, early ultrasounds, etc). Each scan and blood test has come back normal and each time I find myself waiting for an issue. I spotted after my first ultrasound and prepared for the worst... turns out it was nothing at all. My point is, you can’t think yourself pregnant. All of my worry so far has been a total waste. Do your best to just stay neutral and wait for the results. For me, this meant staying busy. Making sure to have plans to look forward to. If you can, a quick weekend away while you wait for results, binge watching a TV show you’ve been meaning to watch... anything to quiet the mind. 


As much as the stories and responses on these blogs created some panic along the way, they have been a wonderful resource for the questions that are hard to even ask out-loud so thank you for posting.


I truly hope this helps someone. Feel free to reach out if you have any other specific questions. You can’t have a rainbow without a little rain. Best of luck to each and everyone of you reading this. Sending you lots of “baby dust”, BFPs, and healthy babies! 


2ww: WTF man

So I don't know what is going on in my uterus anymore, but my period has lasted one day.

One day.



Is this normal?? It has never happened before! 

Probs all the stressed.


Your confused friend,