Infertility and Divorce..

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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby @whenmytruerainbow » Tue Aug 21, 2018 6:18 am

Laurawatson wrote:Hey, i am out of words really. This is so sad to hear that. I can feel your pain as well. Did you thought about trying infetility treatments? Just think about them. Let me just tell you my story. Since i got married to my husband , i also created only problems for him. And this led me to extreme guilt. Though he never said a word to me. But i felt so useless. But he loves me so much. And he was so supportive all along. Its been 12 years now. And we never fought on my infertility. He never made me feel like i am incomplete. And i am so lucky to have him. We are these visiting a clinic these days for surrogacy. And it was his idea. He took me here. The clinic has higher success rate. And this clinic changed our life as well. Its biotexcom clinic in europe. I will highly recommend you to visit this clinic once. And do take your husband with you as well In fact there is an event going to organized by this clinic soon. do take your husband there. Meet with doctors. I am sure they will bring positivity in your life.

I'm happy for you and your supportive dh. This is so important to have sb who understands and shares the pain by side. I often read ladies say it makes difference when dh has kids from his previous marriage. I personally can't understand, if it's love and tolerance between two then this struggle is between two as well. I really feel sick when another lady's crying and saying her dh left 'cause of her being infertile. Oh god, how can men leave their halves alone in this grief?!!
My dh has always been a rock of support for me. Though I knew how hard it was for him too. He never showed he could be weak. NEVER. Giving me more strength to keep on moving, that time (final one) with donor egg. I took it as my greatest failure of all. So that my genes will die with me, no the tiniest particle of me kept in somebody. I cried and felt broken and disheartened. He was the one who helped to overcome. I'm currently prego with our de ivf baby, both :love: waiting for our :babyb: This journey made our family even more stronger.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby @whenmytruerainbow » Tue Aug 21, 2018 6:26 am

TaylorR wrote:I can't even imagine going through infertility accompanied by divorce. That literally sounds just horrible and emotionally devastating. Please stay strong for your own sake. Check out some good clinics with good reviews here and see a doctor. You should try some fertility treatments. I am certain you will conceive eventually. If not, surrogacy is always an option.

Surrogacy is not as easy as could seem. Firstly, one should prove she cannot carry the baby herself. There must be the following reasons: life threatening diseases which make pregnancy impossible; hysterectomy; born without womb and other conditions. Besides surrogacy can be time consuming, so one must be patient. Finally, considering the financial burden. And the chosen country's surrogacy law. On the whole, surrogacy has always been the last option to count on for me.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby Olestern » Wed Aug 22, 2018 8:28 am

Hello there! Some people are very intelligent. When they know that they can suffering from the diseases, then they can find a good clnic and take a good treatment. This clinic is very rare in such countries. So, i'm here to motivate the peoples to take a treatment on right time from right clinic. Best of luck.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby dakota-ken » Sat Aug 25, 2018 10:01 am

You are definitely are going through one of your intricate times. Dear your story is somewhat related to mine. I also had been through two miscarriages. The whole situation became very painful for me. Although it was not hard for me to conceive. Every time we tried it resulted in a miscarriage. I just had enough of the pain. I did not even consider to take IVF cycles. I wanted to have something certain in my life regarding this matter. So, instead of going again for conception we tried to go for surrogacy. We decided to not to put ourselves in more misery and torment. Surrogacy seemed only hope at that time. Good thing that we had guidance from the best clinic in Europe. I suggest you go for the one too. Trust me since the journey has started we are happy and hopeful. We are soon staring our family. I will suggest the same to you. You will see that how your life will change with this. hoping best for you. Good luck.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby Rebecca Jackson » Sat Aug 25, 2018 2:46 pm

Hello! Hope you are doing well! I am really sorry to read about your experience! Well, there is still hope! Don't lose hope! I was also hopeless! It seemed like my life has been stopped! But a clinic in Ukraine has changed my life! Now I am a mother of a baby boy! He is the twinkle of our eyes! So choose a clinic wisely! All the best!
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby Olivia07 » Mon Aug 27, 2018 10:28 am

Oh dear, this is really frustrating. I can feel your pain. I hope you get strength. Losing him shouldn't be your weakness. He was not deserving. Just move on. Surrogacy gives a child to the infertile couple as well as an individual. I am thinking of surrogacy as no option has left now after my miscarriage. Need wishes.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby jimy » Thu Aug 30, 2018 12:55 am

Amman oh, so sad, I can understand it easily that nothing can fill up your pain now. I think that the relation of husband and wife is the most beautiful relation all over the world. But now I am very disappointed in your husband. He should be helped you in this crisis. But don’t be depressed now, dear. you should prove yourself and has to face all the challenges of your life bravely. You should go to the best clinic for your treatment. The clinic where my sister undergoing IVF is the best clinic. their faculty members are very cooperative and friendly. They are taking good care of my sister. its services are really very admirable, You should surely visit this clinic dude.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby EstrellaS » Sun Feb 24, 2019 5:06 am

Hey, honey. I hope you're doing okay. I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. You definitely deserve better. It really isn't your fault. I would advise you to go a little easy on yourself. I hope your luck turns around. Sending lots of love and prayers.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby beckybenson » Wed Mar 06, 2019 12:22 pm

Hey. That is so terrible. I'm so sorry to hear that. Have you considered other options? There are many that you can opt for. Sometimes you need a little assistance in order to have a baby. You can try IVF with donor eggs. See what your doctor says about this. Please don't lose hope. I hope you can save your marriage somehow.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby @whenmytruerainbow » Mon Mar 18, 2019 6:00 am

EstrellaS wrote:Hey, honey. I hope you're doing okay. I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. You definitely deserve better. It really isn't your fault. I would advise you to go a little easy on yourself. I hope your luck turns around. Sending lots of love and prayers.

Fertility issues are never easy to deal with. For some height of spirits, please, do get out of the house and do stuff! Movies, work, exercise etc. Assuming if your doc is cool with this. Shop, spend the money you are ''saving'' from NOT buying pregnancy tests. You must be intrigued with answers, but do your best to keep sane whilst this journey! Do take a friend out for coffee-decaf as you might this prefer now. Buy an adult colouring book. I would suggest sth like writing a list of things you want to do. You can check one-two off a day then. And on the top af all- Be kind to yourself!! You’ve invested a lot of money and emotions into having a baby through investigations/ treatments. As the days go on the emotions heighten. Also confidence shrinks..We all know how it feels while waiting. Don’t expect too much from yourself at this stage!! It’s a really exhausting time. Surround yourself with positive people!! This way you preserve yourself from outer impacts.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby @whenmytruerainbow » Mon Mar 18, 2019 6:12 am

Olivia07 wrote:Oh dear, this is really frustrating. I can feel your pain. I hope you get strength. Losing him shouldn't be your weakness. He was not deserving. Just move on. Surrogacy gives a child to the infertile couple as well as an individual. I am thinking of surrogacy as no option has left now after my miscarriage. Need wishes.

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. :cry: it must be heartbreaking..
But if you look onto surrogacy like the way out for you - then go ahead!!
I've passed DE IVF overseas, in ukraine. You may know it's a surrogacy friendly country. Furthermore it's very popular now for fertility tourism, surrogacy in particular. Here are some major facts which might interest you. Only married heterosexual couples have access to this fertility treatment in ukraine. Moreover, the intended mother must prove that there is a medical reason behind the need for a surrogate pregnancy, preventing her from either getting pregnant or carrying a pregnancy to term. the donor must remain anonymous by law. Moreover, gender selection through PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) is permitted. Surrogates cannot claim maternity rights even if they wanted to following birth.
Conclusions:
In Ukraine, surrogacy arrangements are permitted by law as long as the parties involved do meet the following requirements:
To be an officially married, heterosexual couple.
At least, the intended father is able to provide his genetic material. Ideally, the law envisages that both commissioning parents provide their gametes for the creation of the embryo.
To have a medical cause that is preventing the intended mother from becoming pregnant or carrying a pregnancy to term under safe conditions for both her and the baby-to-be.
Uterine malformations, being born without uterus (i.e. Rokitansky syndrome), anatomical, morphological and/or structural problems of the uterine lining that lead to implantation failure or are incurable are some examples of what the law accepts as medical causes.
Also, severe Somatic Symptom Disorders (SSDs) that may put the life of the patient at risk during pregnancy but have no influence on the health of the fetus are considered to be a valid reason as to why one may need a surrogate to have a baby.
Having gone through 4 failed IVF attempts using high-quality embryos is also considered a medical cause that can leave a couple no alternative but to turn to surrogacy. In such cases, the Ukrainian authorities will require you to provide proof from the fertility clinic you were working with in your home country.
Also no special permit is required by the Ukrainian government to enter the country for the purpose of surrogacy. However, a visa or valid Ukrainian residency is required for stays longer than 90 days (3 months). Also, you are required to a have a valid health insurance.
Hope this helps. Good luck with your further research!
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby @whenmytruerainbow » Mon Mar 18, 2019 6:22 am

jimy wrote:Amman oh, so sad, I can understand it easily that nothing can fill up your pain now. I think that the relation of husband and wife is the most beautiful relation all over the world. But now I am very disappointed in your husband. He should be helped you in this crisis. But don’t be depressed now, dear. you should prove yourself and has to face all the challenges of your life bravely. You should go to the best clinic for your treatment. The clinic where my sister undergoing IVF is the best clinic. their faculty members are very cooperative and friendly. They are taking good care of my sister. its services are really very admirable, You should surely visit this clinic dude.

Hi luv. I'm really glad for your sister. My husband and I have been researching hard before we found Ukraine good enough to try it. Yes, there are really many countries with relevant service and client approach but we’re obviously satisfied with our choice. Ukraine seems like a good combination of all factors and we appreciate it. Our journey gains momentum. It makes us absolutely happy. Honestly, we couldn’t afford an option in the US. It was essentially cheaper to cover all flight expenses to Ukraine and back.
This country also has got an incredible experience in such procedures. I could find both pros & cons regarding its programs. We decided to try anyways. Someone warned us to beware of possible complications. In fact, it was a pleasure to discover this country and its people on our own. All is passing well so far. There’s no regret of our choice.
Tell my best wishes to your sis.
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