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Please guide me

PostPosted: Sun Jul 13, 2014 6:54 pm
by jajumommy2000
I want to make sure this is the right thread for me.

DH(43) and I(39 on Wednesday) are wanting a child of our own. He has 4: 17, 19, 22, 23; and I have 2: 18 and almost 14. I also had a m/c in 09 with my ex. He had a V when his youngest was a few months old. We cant afford the price of the reversal that will work best for him, and we dont have the time to save it up. We need to make sure we have money to care for or children we already have! So, we dont have IF in the common sense I guess. I never had issues getting pg, and he obviously didnt have issues getting his wife pg.

I was on another site and offended someone with one post. I know IF is a very emotional topic and it takes sensitivity, and sometimes its even harder when there are women on boards who have no children listening to women to have children trying for more.

I dont want to offend. When I was with my 2nd DH I was a member when he and I were trying, and he did have MFI. This site was a blessing and I made some friends that I still speak to 8 years later!

So, is this the right place for me? Should I look for another topic thread?

Re: Please guide me

PostPosted: Thu Jul 24, 2014 7:42 am
by ekkotack
i'm not offended at all...........I also wonder if i belong here because I have one little girl and then since have had 2 miscarriages in a i can get pregnant.....but can't keep it. But anyhow, welcome!

Re: Please guide me

PostPosted: Thu Jul 24, 2014 8:04 pm
by kelley21
I think the wonderful thing about this site is that everyone seems to be very accepting and helpful. No matter our situations we are all working toward the same goal!
I have seen some ugliness and rude people random sites, and I haven't seen it here. This site is my go-to, I can share and get support. Which is way helpful, as it's hard to tell family and friends what's going on. They ask too many questions, give their opinions on your situation, or say those dreaded things you don't say to someone with IF (like, "stop trying, it will happen")

Re: Please guide me

PostPosted: Fri Aug 08, 2014 6:31 pm
by jajumommy2000
Thanks ladies. Yea, we wont be telling anyone that we are using donor. Mainly because of his youngest dd17. She is mean and spiteful and i know she will make it a point to make sure everyone knows it isnt her sibling. She is just like her mother sadly.